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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Star's story...
I'm struggling with words so forgive me...
After losing my mom suddenly 8 years ago I always told myself that I would never take another blessed day for granted. But sometimes it takes a story like Star's to reinforce those feelings...
I went home last night and just hugged Thad and cried.
Star, if you're reading, please know that your story may have helped many others out there appreciate life and their loved ones more. Your husband didn't just affect the lives of his organ recipients, he has enhanced the lives of all those who hear his life story.
God bless
Re: Star's story...
I know. I barely know her but her story has touched me so deeply. It takes hearing a story like this to put our lives into perspective. Everyone is greatly blessed with what we have now. I think in todays world we get caught up in the desires for money, clothes, house, etc and forget to thank God everyday for all the blessings that we do have. Family, Friends, Love, even food,water and shelter (even if it isn't your dream home, you have a home).
I also think that Star reminded us of something else that is very important: asking our spouses what they honestly want when it comes to these difficult decisions.
It's scary and sad to have to confront the thoughts of our husbands someday dying, but one of us will eventually. It's so important that you never have to second guess yourself about doing what he would want (and the same goes for him).
Star, my mom became a widow a year and a half ago. My heart goes out to you because I know that unless we've been through what you're going through we just can't know how you feel. I'm so sorry that life is unfair. My thoughts are with you.
Thanks for starting this thread. I had thought about how to say the same thing, but I wasn't sure how to put it.
After reading that update last night I went to bed with Brad and just cried and cried. I completely agree, Star has helped more than just those receiving Roger's organs - she has helped us all.
Thank you for that Star. My thoughts and prayers are still with you. Let us know if you need anything at all.
I also think that Star reminded us of something else that is very important: asking our spouses what they honestly want when it comes to these difficult decisions.
Agreed! Our premarital counseling guy made us talk about this and suggested (didn't force) that our homeswork on night be discussing this and preparing living wills. So thankfully we have that. Some girls on the knot CF board have posted some will and living will info. If you don't have them I would suggest heading over and taking a look.
I agree with this as well RoDiggity. Really puts a lot in life in perspective.
This story is just so sad. I just got on for the first time in days and this gave me chills. It is crazy how fast you loose someone. I know this all too well since we are coming up on the 1 year anniversary of my little brothers passing on Sept 16th. It put a lot in prospective for me including that we need to always make sure we have in writing our wishes and make sure people know what you want. Nothing was worse for me and my family than not knowing if we were doing the right thing for my brother. We still beat our selves up over it. I however can say I am very happy that the last time I saw my brother I said I love you and hugged him....Always say I love you, never leave angry...its just not worth it.
Hopefully Star has a strong support system. I know for me a tremendous amount of girls on this site alone reached out and offered their support and similar stories!
It definitely makes one think about what's important. I was glad to hear that Star chose to donate the organs, though....my grandmother just sent me an article written about her meeting the family of the woman who gave her a new kidney....so, having been on the receiving side of an organ donation, I know that it means SO much!
http://www.commercialappeal.com/news/2008/aug/27/the-gift-of-life/
I couldn't have said it better myself. Star, you strenth is so admirable! I hope you can find some comfort in this time of saddness.
I also wanted to pass along thoughts and prayers from fellow nesties in Connecticut. They all spoke of how much strenth you must have and it reminded them about having those difficult conversations that no one wants to have!
(((HUGS)))
Yeah her story really made me think about how unprepared we would be.
My dh is actually a life insurance agetn and we haven't gotten ours yet. Now we are looking into getting ours done as soon as possible.
We also downloaded the living will forms and will be getting them signed and notarized.