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In-Law problems?
Anyone else want to join me in complaining? Post em here!
Re: In-Law problems?
H's mom skipped out on the baptism. She has seen T maybe 3 times since he has been born.
She has seen her other grandson (born 4 weeks after T) about a million times. She has a favorite child and she just annoys me to no end.
I feel bad for my H because she isn't a good mom. Well, compared to my mom anyway.
Grrr.
I could have written this post. Unfortunately for us, DH isn't the favorite. As a mother, I don't understand how you could pick favorites...
Ha... how did you guess I have inlaw problems? I don't even have the energy or desire to get into it right now though. But suffice to say, my weekend with the inlaws did not go very well.
My MIL is super possessive of Ben. I've even caught her calling him "son" before. And she rushes to be the first to do things for him - she threw a birthday party the week before what I had planned and went on about giving him his FIRST cake, FIRST gift, etc. FIL is the same way.
FIL also does things just to irk me - like is trying to teach Ben to say "republican" when he sees an elephant. Which is not cute OR funny to me. And he is always talking about taking him hunting and turning hunting shows on TV. I'm not totally against it, but I hate that he is already trying to force things on him. Oh, and there was a news segment about gay people on TV once and he actually turned to us and said, "Ben don't look - we don't want no fags in this family". I about sh*t a brick and told him please do not use words like that in front of him, and that DH and I would love him regardless of who he chooses to love. He rolled his eyes at me as I walked out of the room.
I could write a book, but I'll stop for now...
I'm sorry Kasa
Our visits from the IL's always leave me pissed off and bitter.
Ugh! What is wrong with people.
I never really cared about her before (I mean, not calling H on his birthday drove me nuts but I got over it) but now that it involves my son I'm started to get ticked off.
Bitter, yes. Pissed, no. My inlaws (MIL especialy) are just super disfunctional -- especially right now -- and its awful. My MIL has a TON of issues. The whole situation just makes me really sad and I feel really awful for my husband who has to deal with the BS way more than I do.
Interesting side-note: We spent about 20 minutes at Tulip Time before my MIL became unbearably pissed off at the weather, the festival, and the city of Holland. But in that time we happened to run into Chymes! I introduced her to my FIL. My MIL ignored her (and the rest of us) and was highly anti-social which mortified my poor husband.
Aww I'm sorry.
Yikes!!! I don't know what is worse - no involvement or WAY too much involvement.
Eek.
My MIL recently pitched a fit because we might be moving to California for a job for DH. Um, yeah, let's stay in Michigan. The same place where he's been out of steady work for almost 2 years. Because, you know, it's better to stay here where we can continue going broke and I can continue to work constantly. Oh yeah, that's better than us going somewhere so he can get a good paying job and I can go to school to better myself. Because, you know, if we stay here, at least we'll be nearby.
Freakin' a...
H's parents have been OK lately. Nothing annoying. We'll see how they are once we have Baby Rebel. They have 3 grandkids by H's sister, and we plan on treating them better as grandparents than SIL does. That may be surprising to them.
SIL, on the other hand, continues to do things that annoy the sh!t out of me. I posted baby shower pics on FB, and one showed a pack 'n play. So she posted on the picture, "did you get 2 PNPs?" I immediately deleted the comment. Umm, yeah we got 2, but they are identical so no one needs to know. We took back the 2nd and will use the credit for our car seat. But she posted on the picture (instead of sending me a PM), and I have family on FB that got me the other one. Jeez, have some tact woman! Just crap like that where she doesn't stop and think about who can see stuff on FB.
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Other than thoroughly wearing me out this weekend, I don't have any major complaints. They come to visit us SO rarely (like, once every 3-4 years or so) that it's always a little strange to see them on our home turf. But overall it was a good visit, despite the bitter cold. MIL had our differences many years ago, but we got those out in the open and have been working ever since to build a good relationship - and it's going pretty well.
Kasa, I'm sorry your trip out to Holland didn't end up lasting very long. Please tell B that I wasn't offended by any anti-socialness from his parents...if that helps at all.
My inlaws are looking to move to a new house. The one they have now is WAY to big for them. They talked about moving closer to DH and I. Like in the same neighborhood.
OH.HELL.NO.
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
adoption blog: addingaburden.com