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Is this weird to you? (a bit long)
A couple weeks ago my DH and I went out to dinner with one of his former coworkers (he is older- in his 50's). He lives out of state but was looking for a part time assistant who lives in GR since he comes to GR on business once per month. He asked me if I knew anyone or if I would consider the position.
I read the job description and put in my resume, but gave him some parameters if he were to hire me (ie: limited transportation since DH and I share a car and I can't start until later in the summer). He wrote back that these were some obstacles and he needed someone sooner. So then I wrote back and said yea I figured, but there are 8 people I know who might be interested.
His reply was the weird part. He wrote, "Not so fast young lady. was only voicing potential roadblocks but these are always removebale or can be worked around. Thanks for the names but let's talk more."
Young lady?? I found that to be patronizing. DH said he was probably just trying to be endearing, but we were speaking professionally and I felt that it was not appropriate. WDYT?
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
adoption blog: addingaburden.com
Re: Is this weird to you? (a bit long)
Weird? Yes. Unprofessional? Yes.
Did he MEAN to be weird and unprofessional? No...I don't think so. I'm sure he meant well. I think he was trying to be friendly. Can you maybe explain to him that you prefer to be called Mrs. Lastname or even just Firstname?
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
adoption blog: addingaburden.com
I think my reaction to something like that would depend on the rest of my relationship with this person. If he was a friendly guy and I felt relaxed around him, I would probably brush it off as a lapse in professional judgment. However, if I didn't feel entirely comfortable with him or if he was not a guy that I knew well, I'd be a bit more concerned and would keep my eyes open for other potential red flags when considering employment with him.
Only you know how you feel about this guy.
"All right old man, when are you free to discuss removing roadblocks?"
duplicate, sorry.
I would be put off by his remark, too. Things like that tend to really rub me the wrong way, too. I agree with pp who said that he probably didn't mean it to be patronizing or unprofessional.
Yes, I would be annoyed. I'm really sensitive to that sort of thing though. I was recently at a meeting where an older gentleman called me "dear" and I got quite offended by that, even though I'm quite sure that he didn't mean it in a demeaning way.