Registering for a Housewarming Party

jklp0987

We've been married for a few years but just bought a new place.  Before we were in a small apartment and our wedding registry was pretty small since we didn't have space for much. 

So my question is, can we register for our housewarming party?  If people are going to buy us gifts, they should be things we want anyway, right?  I really want some of the bigger ticket items i missed out on with our wedding registry.

6fsn

I find them extremely tacky.

kimnelson09

Please tell me that you're kidding.  That's really tacky.  It's on you to furnish your home, not your guests.  You don't get to dictate what people graciously give you. 

bg022202

I agree with those above. When we had ours some people brought presents and some people brought wine. 

jklp0987

kimnelson09:

Please tell me that you're kidding.  That's really tacky.  It's on you to furnish your home, not your guests.  You don't get to dictate what people graciously give you. 

Not kidding.  If it were me I would want to give a friend a gift I know they really like.

Kernel14

jklp0987:

kimnelson09:

Please tell me that you're kidding.  That's really tacky.  It's on you to furnish your home, not your guests.  You don't get to dictate what people graciously give you. 

Not kidding.  If it were me I would want to give a friend a gift I know they really like.

If I was invited to a housewarming and you said you were registered, I wouldn't show up. Thats gift grubbing. You had your wedding and people probably already bought/gave you an expensive gift. Now you want another one? Ballsy.

 

kimnelson09

jklp0987:

kimnelson09:

Please tell me that you're kidding.  That's really tacky.  It's on you to furnish your home, not your guests.  You don't get to dictate what people graciously give you. 

Not kidding.  If it were me I would want to give a friend a gift I know they really like.

Housewarming gifts are usually small little tokens, like a bottle of wine, guest towels, gift baskets, etc.  It's rarely that leather sofa you had your eye on. 

ETA:  And most importantly, they're given to you because people want to give you something.  They're not obligated to.  A wedding registry is what's traditionally used to help a couple set up shop.  You had that.  It's over and done with.  If you can afford to buy a house, you should be able to furnish it yourselves. 

Nanner22

YIKES!! I also find that very gift grabby. Now if a friend of yours says to you " I'd love to get you all a gift, is there anything you need..." I'd respond with something like, "that's very thoughtful of you. We are still trying to decide what all we need but we've been loving some of the housewares at Target (or wherever)". Any Maybe, just maybe they would get you a gift card to where ever you mentioned.

But housewarming gifts are not usually BIG items! Usually candles, a platter, maybe some wine. But not  "big ticket" items like a TV or Fine China or  a Love Seat.

Maybride2

Traditional housewarming gifts are things like a bottle of wine, a small plant, a loaf of bread and some herbed oil. If you think that people actually want to furnish your home for you, you're a bit naive.

katarczyna

Tacky. Especially because you said you only want big ticket items. If you do, be prepared for a lonely party, or one with v resentful guests.

martinilove

kimnelson09:

jklp0987:

kimnelson09:

Please tell me that you're kidding.  That's really tacky.  It's on you to furnish your home, not your guests.  You don't get to dictate what people graciously give you. 

Not kidding.  If it were me I would want to give a friend a gift I know they really like.

Housewarming gifts are usually small little tokens, like a bottle of wine, guest towels, gift baskets, etc.  It's rarely that leather sofa you had your eye on. 

ETA:  And most importantly, they're given to you because people want to give you something.  They're not obligated to.  A wedding registry is what's traditionally used to help a couple set up shop.  You had that.  It's over and done with.  If you can afford to buy a house, you should be able to furnish it yourselves. 

I was just going to say all of this.  Not all of your guests will bring a gift; it's not mandatory and certainly should not be expected by you!  People will give a gift in congratulations but because they want to and it's usually something small.  It's very inappropriate for you to register and to expect gifts; you made the choice to purchase the home and you also made the choice to not register for some of the big-ticket items you wanted for your wedding.

JuliaGoolia719

I am having a hard time thinking of what I would have registered for differently if DH and I had been in an apt vs the house.  We didnt register for "big ticket" items beyond a vaccuum (sp?) and a few kitchen items that are in storage when not being used anyway (breadmaker, ice cream maker, stand mixer etc) bc I cant stand things that clutter up my counter.  What types of items were you wanting to register for? (I'm not advocating registering, I agree w PP, seems gift grubby, just curious)

hollyfp

jklp0987:

So my question is, can we register for our housewarming party?  

You shouldn't.

Mandy70065

Honestly if one of my friends had a registry for a housewarming party i wouldn't be offended. I guess it kind of depends on how close you are with your friends and family.  My brother and his fiance recently had a housewarming party, and made a registry after the invite was sent out because SO MANY people asked them to.  SO I would say go ahead and make a wishlist on target or walmart.com and if someone asks tell them.  I wouldn't recommend putting it on the invitation though.

Stucas

I had one friend who had a housewarming registry. However she was a single mother moving into her first place by herself. If she had already had a wedding and bridal showers it would not have been okay. Why would you expect your guests to buy you stuff again? I usually only bring baked goods to housewarmings.

lucygoosey815

no one is obligated to buy you a house warming gift....its a nice gesture but if I got a housewarming invite with a registry card in it I would promptly through it out!!! it will make you look entitled and rude!!

mariavictoriax

Mandy70065:

Honestly if one of my friends had a registry for a housewarming party i wouldn't be offended. I guess it kind of depends on how close you are with your friends and family.  My brother and his fiance recently had a housewarming party, and made a registry after the invite was sent out because SO MANY people asked them to.  SO I would say go ahead and make a wishlist on target or walmart.com and if someone asks tell them.  I wouldn't recommend putting it on the invitation though.

This.

And don't make every entry a big ticket item.

kelly-sean

Ditto all the PP's (except the one that thought it was ok).  a housewarming gift is a token, and most of the people coming to your HW probably already bought you a wedding gift and registering for your HW would be very gift grubbing.  if you were my friend and I got this invite, I would probably throw it out and not come because it would seem that you just want gifts, not show your friends your new home.

AileeneG

I don't think that registering for a house warming party is really appropriate, especially if they're large ticket items. As a PP said, it's not up to your guests to furnish your home.

In my experience, HW gifts are typically in the range of a nice hostess gift, but nothing extravagant or wedding-like.