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Another FIL update
He's doing much better and will likely be out of the ICU by early next week. It appears that he'll be in the hospital for awhile longer (especially after they get all his test results back for things like diabetes), but at least he'll be in a room where he can get up, watch tv, and have a phone. The doctors are also adamant about lifestyle changes, so I think an attitude change will also be in order because no one's going to care how much he yells.
DH and I are going to visit over July 4th weekend. My ideal July 4th weekend is not to spend it sweating in Houston, but I feel like a bad wife if I stay home. I'm missing a mini family reunion at my uncle's river cabin, but if FIL took a turn for the worse and I wasn't there with DH I'd feel horrible.
MIL is thrilled we're coming and can't wait to take us baby shopping, especially since it's doubtful she'll get to come visit us at all now. She's also hoping that FIL gets out of the hospital while we're there so we can force him to go on walks with us. He's less likely to yell at me than at her.
Now I just need to find a way to politely tell BIL that I don't want their 3 year old used infant seat....he won't stop asking me even though I've told him we're getting a different brand than the one he has!
Re: Another FIL update
Glad to hear he's doing better! I hope that he realizes he needs to make some lifestyle changes, and sooner rather than later.
That's really weird about your BIL and the infant seat. How does he not get it? You're getting your own! Ugh, people sometimes!
The lifestyle change thing is going to be a fight, but I doubt anyone's going to enable him so he's just going to have to deal with it! Without them, I estimate maybe 5 years left. If he would cut the salt, go for walks, and lose 50 lbs he'd probably have 10-15 left.
For someone who makes close to $200,000/year, BIL is very cheap so he can't understand why I don't want it. Just wait until he asks what my post-baby work plans are. I'm sure I'll get the "you're putting a burden on your family" speech that he tried to give me at Christmas and I had to leave the room.
My dad is kind of the same way - he doesn't see a reason to change his bad lifestyle habits either. Salt, no exercise, fatty foods, excess weight, high bp, heart condition, etc. I hope his upcoming heart surgery is the wake up call he needs, but I'm not sure it will be. I hope your FIL is able to make some changes at least.
BIG, BIG
to your BIL. What a jerk for saying those things!
I'm glad the docs are emphasizing the diet and all... and going for walks will be a good thing! AND, if MIL does the grocery shopping, that will make an impact of some type.
Just a thought... what about taking the seat, anyway... and having it as a backup-if you have 2 vehicles or something? Or if you want one for a family member near home that might make it easier? AND have the one you plan to get. I know when my niece/nephews were growing up it was good to have 2 of some items... then you didn't have to lug them around or reposition them. Would BIL visit enough to notice you're not using THAT particular one?...
I like Lori's suggestion for the car seat. . . Even if you don't end up using it at all, you can take it and tell him that you need it for a back-up seat for babysitters, relatives, etc. I have a car seat and a booster seat installed in my car, now that I live near my niece and nephew
. They aren't as nice as the ones my sister has in her car, but they're still safe and they get the job done!