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Japanese beetles
I emptied our Japanese beetle trap this evening, and my husband asked what was in the bait that made it so attractive to the beetles.
I told him that it was a sex pheremone--it smelled like the chemical that the beetles use to find each other to mate. The beetles go into the bag thinking they're going to get some action, and then we're able to kill them.
He got this terribly serious look on his face and said "That is so cruel to use the promise of sex to lure them to their deaths." I told him I'd be happy to take the trap down, but then his most favorite thing in the whole world (our new birch tree) would be decimated.
He decided to keep the trap, but he kept repeating "That's just not fair to trick them into thinking they're going to have sex and then kill them."
Goofball.
Re: Japanese beetles
Ugh... why the hell men take that crap SO seriously. Like, on a personal level. "Not fair?" They're insects! Could you remind him that they are free to copulate in the bag, so no "promise" was broken? I wonder what he thinks would be a "fair" way to lure them? The promise of food? What's the difference?
I've actually known men who wouldn't neuter their dogs because "I just can't do that to him!" ...as if they have to champion the cause of the dog's testicles because the dog can't speak for them.
My husband gave me such a quizzical look when I wondered out loud whether our dog endured hot flashes are being spayed. Now THAT is suffering!