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THIS is what I have to deal with
Ugh...I'm trying so hard. If there is a God of patience, will you pls pray to him/her for me?
DH and I are going to go out for a date night. This is a HUGE step for me, bc as most of you know I'm pretty neurotic about Gus. My ILs are visiting, so we are going to let them watch him for a couple hours.
I was telling MIL that she had to put Gus to sleep on his back, and that research had discovered this was safest since the days of baby-on-belly that she raised her children in.
Do you know what she said to me?!
*If babies are programmed to die, they will no matter what you do* 
I know she
was trying in some bizzaro way to say 'everything happens for a reason,
so don't worry' or some f-ing thing, but JHC! WTFWTFWTF!
DH
was not amused at all. He is going to pull FIL aside this afternoon to
discuss before we go. We both feel its important to get some alone time
in, and I'm so torn.
Re: THIS is what I have to deal with
OMG that is BEYOND unacceptable of her to say!
Even though she is a complete twit, Gus will be fine. You will have a nice evening out with T, and Baby Bink will be safe and happy when you get home.
*hugs*
Let me know if you want me to come kick your MIL in the knees.
If Em needs backup...I'm in! That's crazy! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (but thanks for sharing stories of the crazy MIL!)
Nice of T to pull FIL aside...and baby G will be fine. You're right-you need a date night!!!
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I'll bring a rusty pipe to the party. OMG, freaking ridiculous! Thank goodness your FIL will be there too. Gus will be fine. Try to enjoy your night out!
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OMG I would have friggin lost it.
Hang in there... I know leaving them is hard, especially when that kind of sh*t is said.
He'll be fine, try and enjoy your night out. Remember... a happy momma helps make a happy baby
, and you need date nights!
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yeah so you're a trooper. We've NEVER left DS with anyone, and we probably won't for a VERY long time. I'm so neurotic, he won't be left with anyone till he can verbalize (he/she touched me, they didn't go by mommy's rules...ect)
Your MIL is a wackadoo. I'm sorry she said that to you. I swear that generation had no idea how to parent. My MIL let my husband CIO at 2 days old. she stuck him in his nursery shut the door and didn't feed him for 8 hours. My FIL used to sneak in and feed him.
However since you aren't leaving him overnight with them, I wouldn't worry too much about how she puts him down. Just flip him if its not right when you get back.
Good luck tonight!
Meh, to each their own. He is a good baby he just hangs in the high chair while we're out to dinner. We go on dates all the time, we just take him with us. We don't have any one we trust that lives close. I'm sure it will get more difficult when he gets older. But by then, he'll be verbal enough to be left. Honestly I would have no fun going out knowing he was home with someone I don't know or trust.
I'm with you, Jen! No kiddos yet, but you can bet that we'll be having baby-free date nights every once and a while to keep our sanity and keep our marraige sane as well! Heck, if we have to have date nights NOW, you best believe we'll need it once the kids start arriving!
I have to thank all of those wonderful people who actually trusted me with their kids (and babies! OMG!) while I was in HS and college...and I'm sure they appreciated me, too!
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I'm sorry that is crazy! Why would your MIL say such a thing. When DD was a newborn my parents were here and my mom was also saying that she would nap better on her tummy. I was so nervous about it. But while my parents were here I let her nap on her tummy in the bassinet of the stroller. But I was right there and never let her out of my sight. As soon as my parents were gone we went back to back sleeping only.
I agree with the date nights. We don't get many but it is nice once in a while to have one. We've been lucky to have great daycare providers who are willing to babysit at night occasionally for a low fee. We don't have family close by either. But DD goes with us out to eat a lot as well.
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What did you say back???? Did you say anything at all???
I think I would've lost it right then & there. I do understand she prob only meant to say the cliche "everything happens for a reason" but like Em said COMPLETELY inappropriate.
Kudos to you for being able to keep your cool. Just be thankful she's visiting & doesn't live here full time... although def take advantage & enjoy your date!!!!!!