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Do you believe in spanking or timeout?
Mrssamuels2B post got me thinking about kids and how they're raised. I believe a lot of the issues these days with kids is the home life. I think kids lack discipline and responsibility at home, maybe that's why some of the issues they go through are so different than what I/we went through in school.
I'm a firm believer in spanking. I don't mean beating the kid, but a good pop on the butt goes a looooong way. It's so funny, even to this day, I would rather get a good old fashioned spanking than a lecture.
Re: Do you believe in spanking or timeout?
We (my brother and I) were spanked....although he was spanked much more often than I was...LOL. But yeah, I don't see anything wrong with it really. I agree you should not BEAT your child...but a few raps on the rear will teach you what not to do pretty quick.
But, I say that now only because I was spanked...and it worked for me.
I think discipline can vary from child to child....different personalities and attitudes respond differently to different things I guess....so we shall see, but I do plan on spanking initially...and if that works....then hey! LOL
I agree with Lauren for the most part. I think it depends on the type of child and their personality.
I think that spanking and timeouts are warranted depending on situation.
I don't know if I could spank my children. Rick was whipped a good bit, but I was spanked maybe twice. And I would just wail to make my dad feel bad.
I do think I will use time-out though. I put Trevor in his pin whenever he tries to eat the couch or bite Jackson's face. I know with children, you ought not send them to their room with all their toys. I'll take a cue from Super Nanny and send them to the 'naughty stool'.
ditto, lauren!
Yeah, I believe in spanking and timeouts. I guess it depends on what works best for my child. Me and DH were spanked as children. I agree that alot of kids today lack discipline and that is sad.
I am scared as a parent if I am out in public and spank my child another person will react (if they don't believe in it). These days things get so out of hand.
i totally agree. i was spanked as a child and i don't hate my parents for it. i don't think that giving kids spankings is abuse. i had a neighbor who would run out into the yard and grab a switch and wail on her kid....that is taking it a bit too far imo.
Nicole you are soooo right. One time at wal-mart in the parking lot, a mother was discipling her child (she was spanking him, nothing odd) well a loud mouth woman began to threaten her and call DHR, well the lady that was spanking her child was like, go ahead because your next and began to walk towards the woman. I laughed soooo hard b/c I saw the whole incident. It wasn't funny that her kid was getting a spanking, yet it was HILARIOUS how she handled the situation!!!
I agree with Lauren as well. Me and my brother were spanked. Him more than me. He was a strong willed person, and all it took was a stern look most of the time for me and I would get my act together real quick.
So yeah I believe in spanking and timeouts. I'll do according to what works with my children.
KC0721.........That is so funny. That would is much braver than I am though. That is exactly what I am talking about. Crazy people that get up in your business and don't have a right too. Its totally different when the child is really being abused.
I guess I'm different... I think it depends more on the situation rather than the child. When Nate talked back or said an ugly word...he got soap in his mouth. When he misbehaves at school or gets a bad grade (where he obvioulsy wasnt trying or paying attention) then he gets grounded...no playing with friends...no video games or tv until he has brings the grade up or has one week of consistent good behavior. When he throws a two year old fit he gets a spanking. It will be the same for all of our children.
I just think discipline is more about being consistent than it is about anything else. Children crave schedules and structure and when they dont have that its obvious in their behavior.
People are raised differently...therefore they are going to view discipline differently. It doesnt bother me when someone doesnt do things the way our family chooses to...or even if they think we handle discipline wrong. What does gripe my @ss is when I see parents not discipling their child out of sheer laziness or fear that their child wont like them. Parenting isnt easy and not fun all of the time but discipline is just part of the job.
Neither DH or I will spank future children. It just doesn't fit with our personalities and what our parenting style is likely going to be. I personally would use other strategies, without doing anything physical.
A lot of discipline issues could stem from home-there could be a bad situation going on or just inconsistency....but I don't really see it as how kids are 'these days'-just that it depends on the specific situation.
I do believe in both- to a certain extent. Children have to have some form of discipline and I think that is what is wrong with some of these kids today!! They have no discipline!!! It frustrates me to no end to see a child going bat crazy in a public place and the parent to do nothing about it.
Hannah is already learning discipline and it's working very well with her. She knows that she will be sent to time out for things and she's also had her hand spanked too. It's not major "spanking" but it gets the point across.
She's a really good child anyway though so *knock on wood* she doesn't need too much discipline!!
FWIW- I was spanked as a child too. and let's not forget the good ol' peach tree switches to the legs. ouch.
LOL...yeah I had the belt on me. All it took was for my dad to come in the room and pop his belt was enough for me to straighted up.
I really agree with Rachel here... it's all about being consistent. I do think that different children will handle disclipline differently, so it depends on the child.
I was not spanked growing up, but DH was. I do not believe in spanking if there is another form of discipline that will work. I know that for some kids it's a last resort. But, I plan to teach my kids it's not ok to hit other people and I feel like I should follow what I preach.
In my child development classes in college they really stressed the time-out method and talking to the child about what they did calmly, later reassuring your love to them and trying to talk about ways they can do things differently the next time. I think it sounds like a good plan... although.. I'm not a parent yet so I really have no clue if that will work.
I was spanked as a child...and I think I turned out alright. As I got older, my parents just had to say my full name and I knew I was in trouble, and my dad was a tall heavy set man. Or I just had to get "the look".
If I ever had a kid (which I don't want honestly) I would spank them.
I can't tell you how infuriating it is when a parent stands there and yells the kids name or says "now, now (insert name) don't do that" over and over and the kid goes crazy. THAT DOESN'T WORK! You can call their name till your blue in the face, but they have no respect for you and will continue to torment other people b/c you don't want to hurt Juniors feelings. But then many parents have no respect for others around them in the first place, so, there ya go.
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Yes, I do. I truly believe that kids need disipline and as a teacher I have seen many that haven't had any. Ava has been given timeouts and when it is necessary I will give her a swat on the backside. Sometimes talking just doesn't work. But, that doesn't mean that it is an easy thing to do. I know what parents mean when they say this hurts me more than it does you. I think sometimes parenting looks a lot easier that it actually is.