June 2010 Weddings
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Criticism
Since I've gotten back from the wedding in California I'm starting to hear more and more from different people at the wedding. It seems like everyone has a little tiny criticism that they now want to shar with me. Little stuff like "The kids didn't like the food because the mac and cheese wasn't kraft" or "Why did you choose cupcakes instead of a cake? You would have had something to cut if you had gotten a cake" "I don't think I like the color of your flowers with the blue sash" None of it is a huge deal but it still frustrates me a little. Is anyone else hearing little things from guests?
Re: Criticism
Umm no, I have not received any.
And quite frankly if one of my guests was rude enough to criticize something to my face I would chew them out. Who cares if they did not like the color of your flowers? It's done, they can't change it and that is beyond rude of them to say that. Gah!
This burns me up. Maybe if they tried to expand the kids likes, this wouldn't happen. I know too many picky kids that only like "what mommy makes". And it really limits them.
And maybe you should have left junior at home if he couldn't be a big boy and try something new.
I haven't heard anything from anyone. I hope I don't. I would probably say something back that they wouldn't like.
Sorry you have to deal with that crap. Some people have no tact. Screw'em.
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Ditto Britt and Knibs. That is incredibly rude of them. If someone said something to me I would probably bark back something like "Well the next time you throw a $xx,xxx party, I'll be sure to tell you what I liked and didn't like about it too.
Sorry you are dealing with that.
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H's psycho aunt is the only person I've heard criticisim from and she's just a b**** anyway. She complained to everyone that it was trashy that my dog was at the reception. And that he was a boy and wearing an orange bowtie (the BMs were in orange and GM in green.) Seriously? If that's all she can find to complain about then let it be.
Don't let their comments get to you... You know your wedding was gorgeous and it fit you and your H and that's all that matters.
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Exactly. We had the greatest time, and would not do anything differently. I don't care what anyone has to say about it.
In another related story: my mom's "friend"s" (I don't know why they're friends), daughter is getting married in August. When she and my mom get together, all this lady talks about is her daughter's wedding, and would not ask about mine. Whatever, she was fine with it. Well, after the wedding happened, she was finding little petty things to bash on, and tell my mom about them. Things like too much cream in the cream puffs, she didn't like the champagne that the resort provided, and my flower girl cried during the ceremony. Mom just let the comments roll off her back, she laughed, and proceeded to put her friend in time out for a few days.
That lady is full of crazy, there is no such thing as too much cream in a cream puff!
Right?! I know!
She's full of bat-sh!t crazy. Srsly?!
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I haven't heard anything but raves.
I would ask those skanks for money to recoup the costs you paid on their "subpar" plates. It's not your fault their kids are picky brats. B.tches. Oh and the people who didn't like your flowers and sash can go f- themselves. Srsly.
Who f-ing says these kinds of things to a bride???? Are they out of their minds????
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I think so.
That really sucks! The only criticisms I've heard have been from my MIL and her sister (due to the fact that I didn't go along with MIL's wedding theme).. but they had been doing that before the wedding so I wasn't surprised they'd still make comments about it after the wedding.
If my guests were to make rude comments like the ones your guests have, I'd put them on my black list and shun them socially!
What is wrong with people?! It sucks how weddings can bring out the worst in some people, even when it's over! I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but I hope you can just let it roll off. Some people just need to complain about everything, and make others feel bad since they themselves feel bad. I'd just reply, "I'm sorry you feel that way" and ignore it. Don't let it get to you!
We have not gotten any negative comments, just lots of positive response. But who knows what people say to each other. As long as they aren't saying it to me, I'm fine with it!
One of my BM's boyfriends the day after the wedding, however, did say as they were leaving, "Hey, maybe next time we get together we can actually talk." It was kind of snarky, and weird since I've only met the guy like twice. I wanted to be like, "uhh, sorry my wedding got in the way of our hanging out time!" jeez! I think it was his lame ass attempt to say he'd like to get to know us better...?
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WTF??? you go to a wedding and you are *complaining* that the macaroni and cheese was not Kraft??? honey, if i ordered a fancy dinner and the mac and cheese *was* Kraft, i would be asking for my money back! psycho-lady! she is lucky you allowed children at the wedding in the first place, and fed them something kids usually like. ditto Knibs--if she raised her kids to try new foods and not just eat processed-cheese-food-product like Kraft then they might have eaten.
we got 2 complaints--one from my mom's best friend who is semi-disabled that the DJ didn't play enough slow songs so that she could dance, which was true and one of my complaints as well. though i really didn't need to hear it from her the night of the wedding and i was a bit miffed!
the other complaint was from a loony-tune friend of mine from a former job. she said "this isn't a complaint exactly, but no one i knew wanted to dance, and when i went over to try to dance with your work friends who i didn't know, they all looked at me like i was weird and didn't really want to dance with me." that annoyed me a lot because 1) hello, you were trying to muscle in on a very close-knit group of people who don't know you at all 2) you did look strange that day, especially because you have gigunda breasts and were not wearing a bra, so you looked kinda homeless, 3) it is not my freaking job to provide you with dancing companions when everyone dances in a circle at a wedding anyway, and 4) if you start off with "it's not a complaint exactly" THEN YOU ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT MY WEDDING.