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TMI... tossing salad (please give advise)
Hi. My husband and I have been together for 5 years, and married for 10 months. He started this thing and it creeps me out! It started with him stinking his fingers in there and now it's moved to him "kissing" me there when he goes down on me.
Does anyone else have this happening at home? I'm not sure what to say to him. I read in Cosmo that if you tell them that something they do in bed is creepy or gross, it hurts their ego... but it's creepy and gross!!!!
Re: TMI... tossing salad (please give advise)
Fvck his ego. If he's going something weird that you don't like, tell him to stop right away. Like, hey what the helll are you doing down there?! Stop! Cosmo is for morons.
Sticking his fingers where? Kissing you were?
I don't know where there, here and were mean. I thought was an adult board?
Ditto. I'm kind of confused.
I really have no idea what you're trying to say.
What about him putting his fingers in you is gross or a little kissing you while going down on you for that matter? What am I missing from this post besides the obvious adult language and the fact that you're getting your sex advice from cosmo?
If you don't like it, just tell him to keep his fingers and his tongue out of your ass. Plain and simple.
Well, don't tell him you think it's gross and creepy, just say you don't like it.
He's not a psychic so unless you tell him, he won't know. The fact that you haven't said anything might lead him to believe you do like it. Just tell him "when you go near my butt, it makes me uncomfortable, I really like when you do X though"
I guess the ladies on here don't know what "tossing a salad" means. It means licking the a$$ hole.
we knew what she meant..
i was commenting on her use of here, there, instead of using big girl words~
Oh, OK. Sorry.
Cosmo also told me to use a thong as a ponytail holder. I don't think I always follow cosmo.
Say "I don't like anal play but I really like it when you______"
The best piece of advice I can give you is to stop reading Cosmo. They give HORRIBLE advice. Totally unrealistic.
The best way to ensure he knows you don't like it is to open your mouth. Figure out if it's something he likes doing or if he just thinks it's doing something for you. If it's the latter, now he knows he's off the mark, he stops, done. If it's the former, you can talk about it more, figure out where he's coming from, how big of a turn on it is for him, how big of a deal it is to him, etc., and go from there. Just don't be judgmental and you'll be fine.
If you don't care for it you need to speak up. Tell him you would rather he do X, Y or Z to other parts. Most men (who are not complete douches) try things to gauge your reaction. "If I do this to her will she say something or react?". If you don't say anything he assumes that you are cool with ass-play.
Tell him that you are not. Problem solved. His ego will survive.
Okay...I really didn't have any idea what it mean't I thought she was still talking about her vagina and couldn't figure out why his fingers in it or kissing it were so gross. Maybe I should be reading more cosmo!
but really lol why wouldn't you just say "hun, don't do that, I don't like it!" ? Or physically remove his hand and say "Nope, not there!" Sex is a lot better when both people say what they like and don't like how else are you supposed to learn?
Just tell him you don't like it. Problem solved.
If you were doing something that he didn't like, wouldn't you want him to say something?
H loves when I do this! Sometimes I use bacon bits. He has to work harder for those.
You're getting marriage advice from cosmo? Honey, you need to stop having sex because you're not mature enough for it. An adult woman will tell her partner what she likes and doesn't like, men usually want that--especially if they love you, they want to give you pleasure not skeeve you out.
In short, grow up and talk to the man FFS.
This is why we stopped using crisco for buttseks and switched to low fat yogurt!
::pouty face:: am I not funny??
Greek Yogurt would be best though.
We still use regular cheese though, I found that low fat cheese didn't melt correctly and that ruined the whole night!
so that's why I'm gaining weight. Damnit cuppin, way to ruin my day!
I prefer to use some cucumber sticks instead of the crutons for a suprise, they hurt too much coming back out.
What about Ricotta or Cottage Cheese?
Ooohh yeah whenever we go that route I like cottage cheese. The texture makes it more interesting and you can jazz it up with fruit if you like too!
You have to leave them in long enough to soak up the dressing!