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Re: Captain
I'm still in Peru, but we've got temporary custody of sweet M, and hope for the adoption to be legal next week! Then we've still got some documentation and US Embassy hoops to jump through before we can come home, which will take another couple weeks. But we should be an internationally recognized, legal family by next week!
Things are going great! M is the sweetest, most thoughtful, delightful little boy I've ever met. We haven't had any kind of upset yet, and the longer we go without one, the more scared we are that when it happens we won't know how to deal with it. But at the same time, if it waits much longer, we'll be so attached to the kid, it won't even faze us (*knocks on wood*).
The toughest part is that he misses the kids from he orphanage. We threw a going away party for him there, and at the end, all the kids and his caretakers took turns saying goodbye and giving him words of advice, and I was a blubbering idiot by the end of it. We felt like we were tearing him from a family to join ours.
He's so good and happy, though. We met him a week ago Wednesday, and he's been living with us since Monday. We've been pretty cooped up in our apartment at the request of our social worker, but we had our last visit today, and we're taking his to the zoo tomorrow. I can't wait!
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That is so awesome, congratulations.
What language does he speak, Spanish? Is that how you're communicating with him? Did the orphanage teach him any English in preparation for moving to the US (doubtful as they're probably not overloaded with staff).
Did you bring clothes and toys for him to get used to as "his" while still in Peru? Or are you taking a bunch of his stuff from the orphanage back?
And, hello? PICTURES?
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That is such wonderful news! I am so happy for you, congratulations!
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Is he missing his caregivers as well as the other kids? From what I know, being sad to leave people is a good sign that he can form attachments, so missing the other kids is actually a good thing.
Does he remember his bio mother at all? I forget if you said how old he was when he went into the orphanage.
Sorry I'm so curious, if any of this is too nosy, tell me to STFU.
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Yes, it is a good sign. It's hard to tell if he's missing the the caregivers. He doesn't ask about them specifically, but he does ask about our lawyer. I think he likes him because he's very personable and can translate more complicated concepts for us, so he knows that when the lawyer's around he can tell us stuff and we can understand us better. He was also only at that particular orphanage since December, and knew abou tus since May, so it's possible that he didn't have time to really attach too deeply to them.
He has never mentioned his biological mother, and neither have we. We don't know what he remembers. We thought that he was living with her until 4, but recently found out that he'd been in an orphanage almost since birth. He had spent some time with her and on the streets in between, but not much. We plan to save those conversations for when we can fully understand one another, so that we can comfort him appropriately if he needs it. Right now, he seems to be a happy kid, and since he has had one disrupted adoption already, we're doing everything we can to make things as easy on him until we're home and adjusting to regular life.
As far as pictures, we're also waiting to post those until we're home. We don't want anyone to tell us that we shared information inappropriately before we're safely back in the US.
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yay! I'm soooo happy for you.
my niece just adopted a 2 yo from the Phillippines (she's lived there for the past 6 years or so) from an orphanage. She says the hardest part is that he's used to all the other kids and no quiet.
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Put me in the teary van. I'm so happy for you guys! It sounds like things are just working out so well.
The nerve!
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I, too, am on the teary bus.
This is so wonderful. I am so happy for you and hope the rest of the process is smooth sailing!
I am so happy for you guys! M sounds wonderful.
Is there anything in particular he's looking forward to doing when he comes home to the US?
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