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worried hubby
Hi nesties!
I have never posted on here, but I've read a LOT of posts and know that you all are full of good advice!
A little back story, H and I have been married almost 2 yrs, and our sex life is a little skant. He says he just isnt in the mood very often and really only wants it about every 2 wks.
anyways, the issue today is that last night i asked him what he thought about me going off the pill. Not because I want to get pregnant, but because i have been on it 7 yrs and think maybe my body should take a break. his reaction was reserved. honestly, i think he may never want to have sex again, simply because he is worried we will get pregnant. (he wants kids one day, but definitely not now.) I told him we could experiment with all the fun condom options, and toys and other ways of pleasuring each other with out the usual.
does anyone have any advice for me? i just want him to be comfortable with our sex life, no matter what!
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Re: worried hubby
dealing with something similar right now. We just went off the pill and I had been on it for a long time as well due to health issues. Now I'm better, but we don't want to have kids right now. If you don't want to get pregnant right now there is a great book you might want to check out. It's called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". It's like natural birth control and I'm about to check it out myself.
Hope that might help
I went off the pill when I split from my STBXH just to give my body a break. I thought it would be a good idea but it really didn't work so well for me. I had my period all the time for about 3 months, and I gained weight when I went back on the pill, something that had never happened to me before. Also my gyno was like wtf why would you do that?
It sounds like you have other sexual issues than just the birth control.
Good for you wanting to give your body a break. Although they say birth control doesn't affect you, it IS an artificial substance in your body. I was on BC for years... the pill, patch, ring, etc... and just went off in January. It took up until this month for my body to readjust so I know it really did take a toll on my body. As PP said, get the taking charge of your fertility book and you'll be able to use that in conjunction with back-up methods like condoms.
As for convincing your guy, it might be different because my DH actually was the first to bring up me coming off BC because it dwindled my sex drive to nothing and he was just plain ol' tired of it. But if you are ready and willing to use other BC methods like condoms, etc. he'll hopefully see you aren't trying to trick him. And you can explain that the info. you get from the book is like double protection because that method is conformed to your system. Good luck!