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Are you church goers?
Feel free to answer anonymously - you don't need to post if you don't want to.
The reason I'm asking is because, well, we're not. We were married by a pastor, but not in a church. We were asked to be godparents to our nephew; he's being baptized tomorrow. SIL & BIL aren't regular church-goers either... anyway, I don't know.. just curious!
EDIT: I want to just make it clear that I have nothing against those who do go, don't go, or do only occasionally - I don't judge! Everyone has a right to their own beliefs, etc. Just my curiousity. Thanks!
Re: Are you church goers?
Newp! I have never been religious. Or spiritual. Or anything. I've gone to catholic church with my grandparents when I was little, and I've been to church with my friends that live in Cali when I stayed with them when I was younger. They were very into their church. They went to sunday school, youth group, plus morning and evening services that were both THREE HOURS long! And the people there were a little intense.. talking in tongues, and at youth group they'd come around and touch peoples foreheads and say things and then the would "fall down" and they'd cover the girls with table cloths?? All VERY strange to a non-christian person hahahah.
We were married by some random lady I found through google
I'm a special snowflake : )
I was raised in a church and got married in my church, and while I fully believe that there's a higher power, I don't think anyone has a full understanding of what that is yet...
I want to raise my children in the church because I believe that it gives good moral grounds and they can make up their own mind if they want to continue to go when they're older.
DH on the other hand is an atheist, always has been. He still wants our children raised in the church (he was). We both understand that religion is something very personal and can't be controlled or willed by anyone else. He's willing to go with the family on major holidays, but I would never force him to go otherwise. And I only go to my church back at home, I like my pastor there and haven't found anywhere in Philly that I'd feel comfortable going to all the time.
Nope. I had to go to church every sunday growing up, but once I hit the age where I could make my own decisions, I stopped going. I go every now and then for special occasions when my parents ask me to (Well, mother's day is the only day I go because it makes my mom happy), but that's it. I'm more of a believer in factual evidence. I find it VERY hard to believe that someone walked on water, split the sea, etc... It's not possible. No offense to all of you who DO believe in that. We WERE married by a chaplain though that my dad knows, but we tried to make the ceremony as non-religious as possible.
Adam's boss is holiness and ALWAYS preaches to him about how Adam has the devil in him because he listens to classic rock and drinks beer.
Very strange to a non-charismatic Christian! Haha. I've been to churches like that a few times (I don't remember seeing the tablecloths, though). My college BF grew up Word of Faith, which is one of those denominations that we "frozen chosen" give the hairy eyeball. He went to an Assembly of God church when we were dating, and that, I could handle okay. Tongues don't really freak me out in and of themselves too much.
Matt and I are United Methodist now (I grew up Baptist-- non mean Baptist, nice Baptist-- and he grew up Presby).
That's what I like about my church, it's very easy going. The pastor even made a joke about the holy water being brought in from Citizen's Bank Park (Phillies) during a baptism one Sunday! (The kid was named after A-Rod, ugh!)
I was kind of offended.. 2 days ago I ran into one of my brother's friend's moms, and she asked me about my wedding. Told her it was misty, but we had our ceremony outdoors anyway, and that the weather was nice and cool. She said, "Oh I remember that day.. The reason you had rain on your wedding day was because you didn't have it in a church! God wants everyone to be married in a church, and that's why people who have outdoor weddings have bad weather!"
Why do people have to force their beliefs on others? Can't we all just believe in whatever we want? If you think the Earth was created by Big Bird, I don't care. Just don't shove it down my throat.
That poor child. LOL.
Yeah.. I wish more churches would make it feel like you can come and go as you please, and there's no pressure. The church that the pastor who married us is from (Chris's dad's church) sent us a guilt-trippy letter about how we should be in worship. That made us want to NOT go at all.
I would have told her that the reason she's so snotty and bitchy is that the devil made her that way.... just to mess with her.
Yes we attend church twice on Sundays and once on Wednesday evening. We attend an Independant Missionary Baptist Church were my FIL is pastor (that's how we met). I teach the 2-4 year olds Sunday School Class and both HH and I help my dad with the teenagers on Wednesday nights. We're also helping with Bible School next month where I'll be over the teen girls and HH will be over the teen boys. We were both raised in church and saved at a young age. Our church is very important to us, a part of our family really.
Hmmm well we had the most gorgeous weather of the entire month on our wedding day
Seriously, I don't care what ANYONE believes as long as they don't try to force their beliefs on anyone else. Just let me be happy not believing in anything, and I'll let you be happy believing in whatever you believe in!
Ditto this.
This! Coexist!
That wasn't very nice at all. I would love to see everyone attend a good Bible believing church but I understand that some people do not wish to. Thats why we all have free-will, to do as we choose. I have several people in my family who will not attend church for different reasons. I don't believe that you had rain on your wedding day because you didn't get married in a church. I think you can get married wherever you want. It was really important for HH and I to be married in our church however because thats where we met.
What Katy said! Except for the part about being married inside the church. We were married by our pastor, but it was outside. We are all kind of "the groves were God's first temples" kind of people.
And we had the most GORGEOUS day for a month in either direction. http://bartelby.org/102/18.html
This is nice. I wish that more places were like this. H's family's church (well, his dad's.. his mom doesn't really go there anymore.. long story) usually makes us feel like we're being scrutinized when we do go for family events, etc.
I don't like churches that scrutinize their guests. Our church makes everyone feel welcome, even if you don't attend every service.
I believe in religious freedom. I believe in everyone's right to love whomever they want. And I believe religion sometimes gets in the way of that.
religious, yes. Church, no.
Sitting in church doesn't make you a christian any more than sitting in a garage makes you a car. You don't have to go to church to be religious.
And for the record.... 100% tolerant right here
Hahah I love this!! So true
This almost. I was raised and saved in the church early . HH came to the church with me when we first started dating and was saved there as well. Since we have moved away for college it was hard finding a church that we liked. We eventually did find one but we aren't going nearly as much as we would like due to schedules. We both go a religious college which we both enjoy and provide a lot of what we miss from church.
But like others mentioned I am tolerant and won't shun you beacuse you are different
I was raised Roman Catholic by very religious parents, who both came from very religious families. Church on Sundays was non-optional, and I went to a Catholic school as well. I had after school religion classes from Grade Primary to Grade 4. I do still attend mass every Sunday, and I'm really looking forward to visiting the Vatican on our honeymoon next month. However, I consider myself to be more Christian than Catholic. There is a WHOLE hell of a lot that I hate about the Catholic church - their views on pre-marital sex, masturbation, homosexuality...all of that is such crap, and even my very religious mother agrees with me about those topics!
I am the only member of my family to marry a non-Catholic, but HH was raised Anglican, which my mom refers to as "Catholic Lite". He attended church as a child but his family kind of stopped going once he and his brothers were a bit older and sports took over their lives. He attends every week with me, and he has never once complained, even though I know he'd much rather be sleeping in.
There was a long period in my life (years) when I refused to go to Church, I just wasn't buying in to the whole religion thing. However, a few big things have happened to me in my life that made me realize beyond the shadow of a doubt that God is active in my life. It's not something that I can (or want to, to be honest) explain to you, but when I realized that He moves in such powerful ways that are beyond the limits of what my little brain can comprehend I started going back to Church. Now I go because I enjoy it, I feel a sense of community there, and it just makes me happy to be there.
Doesn't mean I'm going to give up drinking, acting like a jackass, and giving up my birth control though, haha!
This, almost exactly. I grew up in a Ind. Missionary Baptist Church and DH grew up in a Church of Christ. I was saved at a young age and he was saved a/b 2 years before we got married. We attend two services on Sunday and one Wednesday evening as well as any Revival meetings that we have. Our Bible School is next week and I'll be with my sister teaching the toddler class while DH helps with the food and anything else they need a hand with (he can't teach because his work schedule doesn't allow him to be there every night). Our relationship with Christ is something that we couldn't imagine our lives without; it's very important to us.