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TTC sex
DH and I have been TTC now for 9 months! Still no BFP. We have been together for 9 years and married for 1 year and 2 months. I feel bad when I kinda push sex during ovulation time but we have to if we wanna have a baby. He says it feels unnatural because the sex was planned. Idk what to do. It seems like we are so exhausted from work and ttc that we really don't have much sex when I'm not ovulating. But it seems like when we do have sex, we're doing the same old routine. Any suggestions to spice things up while TTC?
Re: TTC sex
Sure, I think it's all fine and dandy to do as much. But for nine solid months? Of course, it's going to feel like a chore and not fun.
How about you guys take a month off and just have unprotected sex. See what happens? If a baby does, yay! If not, you've only missed a month.
You need to worry about your husband's sanity in this TTC process too. Especially since it's muddles so close to his intimate relationship with you.
2) If you have to be obsessive about checking for ovulation, how's about you not start sexy time with "I'm ovulating!" and proceeding to work at sex. How about you check, wait for him to get off work in some sexy piece and actually have fun foreplay and not the "give me good swimmers" passion but I want to bone you passion: sexy strip tease, bubble bath, bj mixed into foreplay (to get him started), lap dance, sex outside the bedroom. You get the idea.
It doesn't have to be about the fact that you're ovulating. It doesn't have to be a chore or routine.
I'm really not trying to be snarky but I would personally not want to have sex if it had to be waited for monthly around a couple of days for a period of nearly a year.
He wants spontaneous. OP can plan when she knows she needs to and surprise him with it. Not include him on the planning process since that's what he's not enjoying.
However, I truly think that she should stop with the ovulation testing and just have sex for at least a month. She's wearing down her marriage's intimacy like this and that's just not healthy.