Baby Shower Help

abrowneyedgirl4

Hi Ladies! I am in need of some help. My SIL is pregnant w/ her third child...but its her first girl and she is super excited to be having a girl. I reall want to throw some kind of shower for her since her family lives a few states away. I've never thrown a baby shower before and only attened one so I have a few questions:

-On avergae, how many people should be invited?

-Whats a good time of the day to host the event and how long should they last?

-I have a 2 bedroom apartment, is it rude to see if one of her friends w/ a house would be willing to hold the shower there?

-Do they have to be a suprise or can she know about it?

-Whats a normal amount to spend? I dont want to spend a crazy amount

-What is the usual agenda? Eating...then games...then gifts?

TIA!!!!

rosemary&thyme

Hmmm....showers are usually reserved for first children. If you're really set on doing this (and get the ok from her) I'd advertise it as something other than a shower and definitely give it a girlie theme. Perhaps no registry but guests are invited to bring a cute girlie outfit or toy? Otherwise,, to answer your questions...

abrowneyedgirl4:

-On avergae, how many people should be invited? It's up to her/you and your space limitations. Based on these circumstances I would keep it pretty small.

-Whats a good time of the day to host the event and how long should they last? Generally early afternoon and a few hours long.

-I have a 2 bedroom apartment, is it rude to see if one of her friends w/ a house would be willing to hold the shower there? Not necessarily, depending on your relationship with her friends and comfort level in asking.

-Do they have to be a suprise or can she know about it? They do not have to be a surprise. Again, under these circumstances, I would check in with her to make sure she's ok with everything.

-Whats a normal amount to spend? I dont want to spend a crazy amount No clue.  I think you can put together a very nice shower for under $200 though.

-What is the usual agenda? Eating...then games...then gifts? Do games throughout--but games are not necessary. You can also do a ribbons and bows shower where the gifts are not wrapped, they just have ribbons and bows on them. This cuts down on time watching her open them.

TIA!!!!

6fsn

Agree with pp.  I'm not a fan of showers for second and especially third children.  In light of that I would keep it small and simple with no registry and a girlie theme.

abrowneyedgirl4

Thanks for the help, the only reason why I think it would be OK to do is because although its a 3rd child...its the 1st girl...so there is a lot of stuff she doesnt have still.

crissy89

I see no problem with having a shower.... even if it is her third child. I tihnk a surprise might be kind of fun... especially if she isn't exoecting one because it is her third child. GL.

6fsn

abrowneyedgirl4:

Thanks for the help, the only reason why I think it would be OK to do is because although its a 3rd child...its the 1st girl...so there is a lot of stuff she doesnt have still.

Eh, I still think it would be tacky to have a full out shower or any gift giving event really.  Therefore there are others that will find it tacky as well.  If you want to do something call it a "sprinkle" and keep it simple- small and no registry.  I still hate sprinkles, but less so.

abrowneyedgirl4

6fsn:

abrowneyedgirl4:

Thanks for the help, the only reason why I think it would be OK to do is because although its a 3rd child...its the 1st girl...so there is a lot of stuff she doesnt have still.

Eh, I still think it would be tacky to have a full out shower or any gift giving event really.  Therefore there are others that will find it tacky as well.  If you want to do something call it a "sprinkle" and keep it simple- small and no registry.  I still hate sprinkles, but less so.

Really cute!!!! Thanks!

6fsn

Please don't miss the part- SMALL AND NO REGISTRY!

nataloo314

abrowneyedgirl4:

Hi Ladies! I am in need of some help. My SIL is pregnant w/ her third child...but its her first girl and she is super excited to be having a girl. I reall want to throw some kind of shower for her since her family lives a few states away. I've never thrown a baby shower before and only attened one so I have a few questions:

-On avergae, how many people should be invited?

-Whats a good time of the day to host the event and how long should they last?

-I have a 2 bedroom apartment, is it rude to see if one of her friends w/ a house would be willing to hold the shower there?

-Do they have to be a suprise or can she know about it?

-Whats a normal amount to spend? I dont want to spend a crazy amount

-What is the usual agenda? Eating...then games...then gifts?

TIA!!!!

i agree with the pp about the "sprinkle" and also not registering. if you are hosting, you should take care of the location/food, but you can always do an "open house" sprinkle in lieu of a full fledged shower. i would have some finger foods and drinks - nothing major. good luck!