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It's not him, It's me.
It has certainly been an eye opening afternoon for me. Having another agruement via IM as that's the only way we can actually "speak" to each other.
I've been in a pretty poor attitude since I found out about his "activities" I've been super emotional and snippy to say the least. Now I guess I'm confused. I've been told that "don't keep things bottled up" so when I get emotional and let things out, now I'm wrong. So what am I supposed to do?
These are just some of the things that he's said. Apparently, It's not him, It's me.
"Your *** attitude has been in place longer than we've been married"
"Yes I did try to work on "us" but anything I said was blown off"
"I am not downplaying a damn thing. I am not going to add all kinds of drama to make you feel better"
"It was a mistake- wait can't say that, I took a hatchet to our marriage and destroyed the very fabric our being. Better?"
And my favorite
"Open your freaking ears and listen."
This was all said in the space of 3 minutes.
Re: It's not him, It's me.
I am so sorry to hear that. I absolutely don't blame you for being snippy and super emotional.
No one deserves to be spoken to the way that he did to you regardless of the situation. Have you gone to a professional to get some advice?
I hope this doesn't come off as rude because it's certainly not intended to, but have you guys thought about talking in person about stuff? I have no idea what the issues are but IM/Email/ any kind of electronic communication is really up to false interpretation and it can be toxic.
I hope you are able to work everything out and just remember, there's a reason you fell in love with this man and why you married him. Keep the focus on that.
He started counseling but couldn't keep on going because we couldn't afford the bills, and they started to pile up. I've been trying to find a priest in our area that does counseling but not having much luck there.
No, it doesn't come across rude at all. I appreciate the posts. The issue is that I found out he hasn't been faithful. I can't tell you how many conversations I've initiated to only end up running in circles. I know electronic communication is not ideal, but it seems to be the only way right now.
I'm trying to remember why I feel in love with him, because as I'm finding out, I don't know him at all. I have no clue who he is. And from his comments (more today) that he doesn't know me either.
I don't like feeling like I'm in a downward spiral and just want to be happy again. How can you be happy with someone you don't trust?