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Thank You card ettiquette??
I want to know what you girls think about this.
I've talked about this on my blog but thought I'd start a discussion on it.
A girl that I know here had her bridal shower back in February, I think, and her wedding in March.
Now, I don't know this girl very well. She married DH's friend's brother. lol So, we were seeing them quite a bit because DH's friends Mom would have parties at her house for different reasons.
Anyways, I got invited to her shower and then to the wedding which I was excited about. I couldn't make the shower but still got her a personalized gift with her new last name. I never got a thank you card for it.
So, the wedding comes and goes. We gave them $75. I usually give $100 to very close friends but since we didn't know them that well, I didn't plus the fact that I didn't get a thank you card from the shower, really turned me off.
I just got a thank you card yesterday. It was a picture one, which I love. However, they didn't write anything on it. It was printed "thank you! Love Mr & Mrs. xxxx".
Now, I'm glad they actually sent thank you cards BUT they didn't even personalize each one. I find this a little rude....
What are your thoughts? Is it wrong for me to think it's so hard to write each individual thank you card out so each guest knows you are actually thanking them for what you got them?
Am I being too "old school?"
Re: Thank You card ettiquette??
We did picture Thank You's too but it was more of a card style so I could write inside each one! I also agree it was very lazy!
I don't think you are being old school at all. I think everyone should send personalized thank-you cards.
However, I will make a huge confession that I never finished sending out all of my wedding thank-you cards (and I felt AWFUL for it). I started student teaching right after my wedding, and got completely sucked up into that. I also didn't come from a family where thank-you cards were a big deal. Like, nice if you get them, but if you don't, I don't tend to think they weren't grateful or anything. I don't know how to explain it.
I have been doing MUCH better with Isabella though. And trying to send thank-you cards for all gifts we/she get now. But for some people it might be a part of just how they were raised. I'm getting better about it, but honestly thank-you cards weren't just something we did a lot of. I hope that doesn't make me a terrible person...
I do not think you are being old school at all. I was always brought up to say thank you's for everything, birthday, holiday's, graduation... etc. And we always had to personalize them to what people got us... I mean isn't that why there is always someone writting it down when there is a party?
CJ and I are planning on doing the personalized thank you cards but I am a HUGE beleive it making it something special for each person. I know how much time and effort people put into getting us things that they though we would like and I wouldn't want them to feel we didn't spperciate their gift or them as friends or family...
I think it's beyond lazy... it's just plain rude. You took the time to pick out a nice gift for them and gave them a very generous gift of money... and they can't take 3 minutes to write you a personalized thank you card?
I also can't imagine why it took them four months to send out blank thank you cards, but that's just me.
Totally not old school.
I'll be the first to admit that I'm not always the best at sending out TYs for regular things like birthdays - but I am TRYING to get better at it.
But you can bet your bottom dollar that I had those wedding and shower invites done and mailed within a few weeks. AND they were handwritten, personalized to each gift giver/attendee.
The least they could have done was wrote personalized messages. Sheesh.
We did this growing up for everything... I think it is just a nice gesture, because I always like to think that people got something for their home or for the baby depending on the event and sometimes they just say oh thanks for the money... and that is it then I find my self thinking well what did you do with it... did you buy a 12 pack and some ciggy's or what? lol
Ditto this! I love hearing what people used the money for. It's just more fun to think of the money you gave actually being used on something for the home or some special dinner for the honeymoon or whatever. We specified what we used the money for in our wedding thank you notes, too. Even with gift cards, I try to figure out how we'll use it before I send the note, so I can tell the person.
Yep...my thoughts exactly!
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I think you have a year to get your TY out for wedding stuff..(I could be wrong on this so I am sure it will be corrected if I am)... obviously the sooner the better but sometimes like your situation with the photog you couldn't help it you know what I mean?
This. Nicely worded Meg
Our TYs were sent out about a 1.5 months after the wedding. I felt really bad about the delay, but it was partly due to the vendors. We chose one photo and ordered it in a 4 x 6. We also ordered more stationary to match the invites. Each card was handwritten with a long, appreciative note.
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
I think it should be personalized and timely. We got married Sept 27 and I had all mine sent out about a month later.
That being said, keeping up with the Lucy gift thank you cards has been MUCH more difficult. I still have some to send out from ones that we have gotten a month or two ago.
ugh
I would be surprised too. If you're going to send out a thank you why not actually make it count? At least say thank you for joining us, even if you don't remember what they got you.
Then again, people are probably thinking I'm rude right now because its a month and a half after the wedding and we haven't sent out thank yous yet. And of course I had the best intentions to send out my thank you cards from my shower BEFORE the wedding and that didn't happen.
Would it be too weird to send the shower thank you still, around the same time as the wedding thank yous? They're different cards and for different gifts obviously. Hmm...