I miss home - A pity post

Sabrina_Faire

Hello. So I don't really post here very often but I sometimes read stuff. I'm from the Chicago area originally but DH and I moved to Omaha 2 years ago. And basically I hate it. I can't find a good job and I miss my friends and family. I hate this town and we can't move back until the economy improves. That's all. How's Chicago today?

Ainslie325

Oh, Sabrina_Faire!

Not having a network of friends makes it tough.  My husband is from Omaha and I'm from Boston, and we now both live in the Chicago burbs.  I don't think Omaha's a bad town, but it's certainly not Chicago.  On the upside, there's good shopping, great sporting events, home football games in Lincoln, and the fabulous Old Market!

Could you take a class or join a common interest group on Meet Up? Do you run?  Could you join a local running club? Maybe you and DH could join a sports league?  Kickball?  Rec softball or volleyball?  I felt much the same way when I moved to Chicago-- isolated.  Once I met my now-husband and started teaching in my current district, having such wonderful friends helped me really fall in love with the city. 

Good luck on the job front, too! 

 

lal9905

I think wherever you live - it's difficult if you don't have a social network (friends, family, or both).

On the flip side of your comment...I moved here in November from Indianapolis and I miss living in Indy every.single.day. Despite that I'm living downtown in a fun high-rise with the best of Chicago at my fingertips...or a $5 cab ride away!

I agree with the previous post - join a meet up, take a class, and basically force yourself to get active in the new city. Honestly...I started going to the Chicago meet-up for new girls in town and it's been fun!

P.S. - It is hotter than hell today in Chicago...ready to leave work and hop in the pool!

sarigirl17

I hadn't heard about Meetups until I read this- now I'm joining one! Thanks for the tip!

joelen&louis

Sabrina! SO good to see you on here! I'm sorry to hear things are difficult out there... I wish you'd come back to Chicago. BTW - I responded to your message on FB.

Sabrina_Faire

Thanks gals. (And thanks, Joan, I sent it on to my friend to see if she had any questions. Don't want to bombard you with stuff! )

 

I know you're all right. I have a hard time making friends. I did make a friend at my old job but she's got 1001 other things going on so we can't hang out too much. I am making friends at the new job. They go out every payday and I was finally able to meet up with them last night. It's nice to be able to do something social for once!! Not that I mind going out with DH but you know, sometimes it's nice to go out with other folks. I say finally go out with them b/c I work until 8pm Tuesday through Saturday. This past week I worked M-F 9-5:30 for training so I was free in the evenings. I'm trying to change my schedule to allow for more activities. 

Oh and Joan, I'd move back in a heartbeat if I could. I actually was looking at jobs back in Chicago before we moved to this new apartment. I was really trying to get back in at my old company (you know the one!) but that didn't work out. And now with the buyout/merger/whatever I don't know if that will ever happen.

SecondCitySoiree_Jen

Are there any local affinity groups you can join?  Does your college have a "InsertMascotHere in Omaha" club? Were you in a sorority...if so, they probably have a local alumnae chapter.  There's always organizations like the Junior League, too.

Bride7/15/05

Sabrina!!  Good to see you over here.  I haven't talked to you in a while (ChicagoJen). 

Sorry that things still aren't improving.  I know it can be rough away from a network.