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Wedding thank you card etiquette

My cousin got married at the beginning of June.  It was a standard, very traditional wedding.  About 150 people.  We just received their "thank you" card in the mail this is what the sentiment on the inside says and is was typed, YES typed:

This brings sincere thanks for the lovely gift you sent.  We hope it helps to tell you how much it meant.  (and then their names.)

They didn't handwrite anything on it at all.  Not even our names.  I don't know about you but this offends me for some reason.  Everyone has to write thank you notes when they get married, it's not that hard.  Yes, it can be a daunting, but you do it.  Sorry for my rant, this just really irks me for some reason.

Nutella brownies for listening to me ramble! :)

Re: Wedding thank you card etiquette

  • I agree with you Natalie!  We had to send out a ton of TY cards, and I hand wrote each and every one of them.  (Granted, I spaced them all out through all events)

    If I received a TY card that was 'generic' in a sense that it way typed and there was no personal note it there from the person sending it, I would most certainly feel offended.

     

  • I would be irritated too! I went to a wedding for a co-worker before I was even engaged and never got a thank you for the shower gift, or the wedding gift. I still think that was awful of them. I don't know what makes people think that is okay.
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  • Lisa7Lisa7 member
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    Um, yeah, I have never heard of anyone typing a thank you note. That is not personable at all
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  • Very, very tacky!  I hope somebody calls them out on it.  My mother would KILL me if I did that.
  • imageFutureMrs.McC:
    Very, very tacky!  I hope somebody calls them out on it.  My mother would KILL me if I did that.

    I just gossiped with my dad about it and him and my stepmom are very irritated too.  My grandpa was in the car with him when we just spoke and my grandpa said well they just got a new puppy...really?!?     

  • I have to agree. I've gotten TY cards with typed sentiments, but the bride still wrote a nice personal note and hand wrote our names.
  • That's BS! Of course you're supposed to hand write them! I'd be irritated too, mostly b/c I hated writing them, but if I did it everyone else should have to also...lol. We went to a wedding in May and never received a TY for the gift, that still irks me
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  • We did picture thank you cards, but I also wrote messages on them all.

    We went to a wedding in Nov, and they did picture thank you cards too, but they just had their thank you pre-printed on them- no personal message.  I never really thought twice about it, it didn't bother me.  

  • I HATED writing out my tahnk you cards for everything: both showers, wedding, but you just know that you have to do it. 

    I'm sending Emily Post to this girl's house and telling her the rules :)

  • i'm a big stickler for proper etiquette and this is just awful!
  • Omg how rude! I wonder if there's a way to let her know that she just offended all of her guests
  • I think it's terrible.  Even worse...last year a couple we know got married.  Rather than sending TY cards, they printed 4 X 6 pictures with "Thank you for sharing our special day!" printed on the bottom.  They didn't even send a typed card...no personal note on the back or anything!

    Thanks for the Nutella brownies =)  Yuuuummmm!

  • Whoa, super tacky!  My twin did this when she got married and I was mortified (as was my mother, who I thought might kill her)!  She didn't even hand-write a thank you note to me, my mother, my sister, my aunt, my MIL... who all did multiple things for her wedding (my MIL made her a hand-made crochet blanket and made all of her bridesmaid purses).

    This is definitely not acceptable and I don't understand why people think it's ok.  

  • i agree! i would love to be able to type my thank you cards...but im not that tacky!!
  • wtf!?  "we hope it helps to tell you how much...."  it's not a friggin sympathy card for gods sake!   it's not even a well-"written" typed thank you note
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