To call or not to call?

siba1119

Should I call my mom? I haven't talked to her since Memorial Day because of all the drama.  She called me on Thursday night when I was staying over my bff's house since I was in town for work.  I didn't pick up the phone which turned out to be a good idea.  After that she called Aaron and yelled at him saying she couldn't believe I was 5minutes away and wouldn't even come up to say hello. Ok.... I've been staying at my bff's house once a week since the middle of June and you JUST NOW get mad about it?

 I'm thinking IF I do call I'm going to preface it by saying something along the lines of, "if our relationship as mother and daughter is going to work you have to quit holding that money over my head to get me to do what you want me to do and quit stealing from me.  I'm an adult and should be able to make my OWN decisions"  Of course there is a lot more to it than that, but what do you ladies think? 

nataliejp519

I know things are rough between you and your mom, but I think you should call her.  You only have one mother, you know.  I agree and think you should preface your conversation with what you wrote above.  If things remain sour then you'll have to think about how your relationship is going to be from there.  I'm sorry, Tracey, and I'm hoping it will get better.  HUGS!

siba1119

I reached out and made an effort and she hung up on me without even saying 'hello'.  Oh well.  At least I tried.

sarlah

siba1119:

I reached out and made an effort and she hung up on me without even saying 'hello'.  Oh well.  At least I tried.

wtf. I'm sorry Tracy! ((hugs)) Sorry if this is too harsh but... she needs to grow up and realize she's the parent. At this point you are both adults, unfortunately you're the only one acting like an adult.

nataliejp519

siba1119:

I reached out and made an effort and she hung up on me without even saying 'hello'.  Oh well.  At least I tried.

The ball is in her court now.  If she calls you back sometime are you going to answer?  More hugs, Tracy!

siba1119

nataliejp519:

siba1119:

I reached out and made an effort and she hung up on me without even saying 'hello'.  Oh well.  At least I tried.

The ball is in her court now.  If she calls you back sometime are you going to answer?  More hugs, Tracy!

Thanks ladies!

I'll pick up depending on how long it takes her to call me back.  If it's later today I'll probably pick up, but any later than that probably not.

SimplyMistaken

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I can sympathize as I have a mother who I have considered completely cutting off more than once.  I don't know your whole back story but it sounds like it is a tough one. 

smilz4milz

Tracy, I am sorry that you have to deal with this!  I can't even imagine my mom treating me like that...I've had an uncle treat me like that, but that is totally different (though it still sucked).

Maybe one day your mom will see the proverbial light and realize how much she's missing out on.

Have you tried writing her?  You might be able to put onto paper what you want to say without getting interupted and possibly arguing.

:::hugs to you, girl:::

DanielleB1978

You were so brave and took the first step.  Good for you!  I'm so sorry to hear how she reacted.  I hope this passes and that you two will soon be on the path to healing your relationship.  Lots and lots of **hugs**.