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FU to Ettiquette Fail! BR
What the eff should I do???
So remember the cousin that is having the baby shower? Well she had talked some sh!t about me on FB (sometimes I really hate FB) right before I got the invite and then last night she started to talk more crap about me. (Another cousin that I am closer to posted something about how she was thinking about me and the shitstorm started after that.)
I typically am pretty good at blocking her negative ways but I seem to be having a really hard time with her right now. Apparently I am she shittiest family member ever because I have not told them that I am pregnant. Umm hello, were you there with me last year when I was going through the hells of miscarriage???? NO!
Guess what, you never told me you were pregnant either, I didn't get my panties in a wad and I don't understand why you are... eff off. I am still buying you a gift, which is the only reason you are trying to talk to me now... You just want to ensure you are getting something from me, my mom, and my sister.
So I still have to go to her baby shower Sunday, how should I handle it? My mom told me to confront her, and normally I would but I don't want my blood to boil over her lame a$$.
Re: FU to Ettiquette Fail! BR
No, you don't have to go. Send her an e-mail, give her a call, or text her--let her know that you won't be in attendance because you've apparently become a point of gossip/trash talking on facebook, and you don't appreciate it.
She sounds like someone you should cut your losses with and avoid--even if you're a hostess, bring your food/decorations with you, set up, and leave!
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/40083359.aspx
I am in no way a hostess... This is a cousin of mine who I can not stand (which is really sad because I love her daughter). I don't agree with the shower to begin with but no I am just PISSED!
I think not attending the shower or firing back a nasty comment in return is stooping to her level. Go to the shower, act extremely gracious and nice - kill her with MASSIVE amounts of kindness and move on. Being the bigger person is VERY hard to do but I guarantee you, in the long run, it is MUCH more fun - what goes around, comes around her behavior will eventually bite her in the @ss....
She sounds like trash, btw...
I agree! Tell her you're sorry you won't be attending, but you just don't feel comfortable in the situation being all of the negative remarks/comments that have been made. You hate to show up to a party/gathering where everyone could be whispering and talking crap about you the entire time (been there, done that, will never do again)...or even worse acting nice to you when they don't mean it and act very phoney. That's the sh*ttiest. If you can, I would call. This way she can't say to folks..."she couldn't call but emailed/text'd me" or something like that.
You could still send the small gift (be the better person) and wish the baby health and happiness. Something like that. Not the baby's fault she has a drama queen for a mom. ha ha ha
I kinda agree along the lines of attend the shower and kill her with kindness. Give everyone around her a reason to think she's crazy for talking sh!t about you.
I would personally want to confront her, tell her to stop talking about me and to get her issues straight with me instead of being a baby and talking about me behind my back. But, that kinda is stooping to her level - and will give her the opportunity to raise more hell if you don't go. She sounds exactly like my SIL - she called me names on FB after JJ was born because *gasp* I wouldn't let her take my (at the time) newborn child all day in the December cold (and that's just the tip of the iceberg). I was nice as hell to her after that, and things are better (not great, but better).
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck. You've got mad patience when it comes to her as it is.