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Ever want to just shake someone...
To try and get them to see that they are being overly negative?
A friend of mine just got a promotion at work because another teacher suddenly had to leave (his new wife just got a job as a genetic counselor in KC and his teaching job is a little more portable and he didn't want to be the reason she was here without a job, which is nice) and instead of seeing that it could be a really cool opportunity, she's all down in the dumps about it.
I get that she's nervous about screwing it up...I had the same experience a couple of years ago with the exact same class. We have the same certification, I survived, and so will she. We have a supportive administration and great kids. But instead of realizing that, oh, she finally has a full-time teaching job and doesn't *have* to live off her student loans, she's instead focusing on the fact that she's not teaching band.
I just want to shake her, or slap her, or something! It's just frustrating for me. As cynical as I am, I'm still an optimist about most things and it grates my nerves when people look a gift horse in the mouth.
I guess that was more of a vent than a question, really. Sorry. Unpopular opinions anyone? Ha.
Re: Ever want to just shake someone...
Ugh. I have a friend like this as well. It's extremely frustrating to me at times due to her seeing the negative aspect at every corner. Her students were preparing for a final and she complained the entire time because it took "so much work on my behalf to get them here." It was weird due to the fact that she WAS in fact their teacher.
She is an extremely nice person but is time consuming due to her pessimistic stance on everything. I constantly remind her of how fortunate she is, maybe you should do the same then step back a few paces.
I was thinking about doing that, if she starts up again. I realize that she's waaaaayyyyy in debt with SL's but she has a lot going for her. Things don't always work out perfectly the way we want them to, but constantly complaining just clouds our vision and disallows us from seeing the good in our lives.
I had another friend like this in the recent past. We aren't friends anymore. We also worked together. I really don't want this one to go the same route. But, I can't do everything for someone and I'm no hand-holder. If you want my advice, I'll give it, but if you're just whining, I'm going to tune out after awhile.