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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Gay husband
I can't be the only one to wonder...
Do you ever think someone else's husband is gay?
If yes, what's the circumstance?
Newlyweds since 2007
Re: Gay husband
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Tara & Ian . 4/24/2008 . The Kahala Planning . Married
Nobody's husband, but one of my college roommates had a boyfriend who was, as one of my guy friends so charmingly put it, "gayer than Merry Christmas". They were friends for years, we all knew him, and then one day he told her that he'd been secretly in love with her the entire time. We were all floored. What do you mean, you guys are a couple now? He's gay!
Aw, man, my first boyfriend was gay. He wasn't willing to admit it until after he dated me.
My second boyfriend turned out to be bi.
Now my friends like to say that I turn men.
LOL!
Edit: I guess I should have answered the question. I think people try to convince themselves to be something they're not all the time, because they want to live up to some expectations (parental, societal, etc).
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Absolutely! I know two couples that I scratch my head about. One girl I know married a guy that had been gay & everyone knew him & his boyfriend (including her parents)...how do you forget about that?? But in this case, if they both came out of the closet, I wouldn't be horribly floored. The other couple in mind I only know the guy & have never met his wife, but I don't know how you even begin dating someone that clearly is playing for the other team.
I think Alyson is right...some people either want the family life & only see being straight & getting married as the way to do it or want to meet expectations so they do something just to make others happy.
But with all of that said...my mom is gay & divorced my dad when I was around 4. I have asked her why she got married at all if she knew she was gay & she said she didn't know. (Obviously I am glad she didn't at the time..otherwise I wouldn't be here now to write this post!) So maybe some people really don't realize it until they are older...I am really not sure.
after we broke up I thought my ex may be gay. at the time he wasn't overtly gay or anything but he was so obviously unhappy about his life (not our relationship - but about other aspects like job, family, friends) that I think there may have been (many) underlying issues and I think he was hiding behind the veil of a relationship to make his parents happy - at the time I had lots of stuff going and and just couldn't shake him. I guess I can't explain it - but something was "off" and he was just a miserable person. Not that it is a definite sign one way or another but he was more caught up in clothes (brand names) and really expensive home decor/furniture than me. He shopped like it was his job.
At first I thought his unhappiness was mostly job related - his parents put a lot of pressure on him to do certain things and they were very upset that he has not pursued an advanced degree (law, mba, or ??) and that carried over to other expectations so it wouldn't surprise me if having a hetero relationship and eventually marriage and all that was just him going through the motions. At the time I was very wrapped up in my own life in law school and just kind of did my own thing and it was easy to stay because he (probably his parents, I never really asked) paid for our apartment. I finally realized I wanted (much) more, took responsibility for my own life and moved out.
No clue what he is up to these days but I hope he has found personal happiness.
this post made me LOL!
I don't talk about it much but my XH is gay. Of course I didn't know it at the time (DUH) and he's says he didn't either (he's VERY Italian and VERY Catholic) but after I divorced him he "came out" and now lives with a male partner. Looking back on it, there's so many *smacks head* moments, but honestly, I just thought he was "artistic" (we met in college while studying music...he's a musical genuis, no lie!)...Oy.
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