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Bridal Shower-No Invites
I'm throwing a shower for my friend. She's been telling friends and family the date and time of the shower by mouth and telling them to expect an invite from me in the next few weeks. (Her wedding ediquette is not the greatest, as she wants to invite people to the shower who aren't invited to the wedding.) However she hasn't given me a list of addresses or names yet because she doesn't want to forget anyone, and wants to add people last minute as necessary. I've told her I've got plenty of invites for both the bridal shower and bachlorette party and will set some aside for any last minute people she wants to invite. I've also reminded her that I'm out of town for the next two weeks for work so I won't have time to get at the invites. She tells me this is fine because her friends and family know when the shower is, and they will show up with or without receiving an invite.
Would you show up at a bridal shower without a formal invitation? If no would you set aside that weekend for the shower, or would you find something else to do just incase you weren't invited?
Personally I wouldn't show up to a party without some kind of invite...even if it was an evite.
Re: Bridal Shower-No Invites
This is odd... she is putting you in an awkward situation too. You must get her to give you a list of names/addresses - let her know that you aren't comfortable with this and that most people (her family may be different) would not attend an event without some sort of an invite and that you need an aprox. guest count. You also want to send an invite to make it special for her! That is the fun part of an event. It also sets the tone for your guests and will be a keepsake for her later...
BTW her wedding will also be very disorganized...
Good Luck!
Yes it is. As of last week she still hadn't made up her mind about whether or not she was making the invites for the wedding or purchasing them. The wedding is Mid Oct. They don't have a DJ and she thinks its ok to play music off their ipod. This is the most dysfunctional wedding ever.
BTW, after having a blow out over comment about the guests just showing up I got an email with her invite list. She wants to invite about 30 people but is missing at least 10 addresses. I'll send out the ones I have addresses for.
No, I would not show up without an invite. I would plan as normal until I got something in the mail. I just don't understand this line of thinking - it makes it much harder for you to know an exact number of who is comming. GL with the shower!