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WWYD?
My FSIL hadn't picked ushers and guest book attendants and a couple people like that yet for their wedding in 19 days. Tonight after an email I sent her about the flowers she asked me to be at the guest book with one of her sisters.
And I'm not very excited about the prospects of saying yes. I am doing all the flowers for their wedding, and I think that by the time I give her her bridal bouquet at 1pm and then go and smile for family pictures I would like my responsibilities to be done. Not that the guest book is a challenging role. It's more boring than anything else.
So what would you do?
Suck it up and smile through this "job" after the whole weekend I have already spent doing the bouquets, boutoniers, corsages and other arrangements on top of helping my mom with the rehearsal dinner.
or
Say "thanks but no thanks". I think someone else who hasn't been honoured with any other roles should be blessed instead of me.
Re: WWYD?
Thanks but no thanks. Tell her it would probably be better to have someone who isn't already doing something that day. You'd hate to get distracted with finishing touches on the arrangements and miss people.
Flowers are a lot on their own.
ITA agree with kmap, by the time the reception rolls around you're gonna need a break!
I would politely decline as well. Sounds like you'll be running around enough, and just let her know you would like to focus on the flowers, and that the guest book attendant role should probably go to someone with little or no other responsibilities.
Heck...we didn't even have a guest book at our wedding. I knew that we would NEVER look at that thing after the wedding, so what was the point. I've just kept all the wedding cards instead.
Aren't the groomsmen going to be ushers? And people really have guestbook attendants?
I would decline for sure.
I would like to say that I would decline since your are already pretty busy but I am a people pleaser so I would probably "sure".
What you SHOULD do is say no.
f/u I just sent her a message saying that I am going to pass. I said that with the responsibilities of the flowers and wanting to get corsages on people last minute and making sure her flowers are perfect before she goes down the aisle I didn't want the extra responsibility.
Jen I also mentioned to her the option of having the groomsmen also usher. I don't know that I've ever seen that at a wedding but it sure would save me from making extra boutonnieres.
Hopefully it goes over okay.
that's what we did, I didn't even think about any other option!