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BOTB!
As i said in my intro, my DH and I have been married since Dec.( but we've been together since 2002). We are both getting started in our careers and are beginning to be in a place where we are doing well financially, but we definitely need to start saving more. We still have a lot we want to do before we start thinking about TTC (we've discussed it and are both on the same page -- we want to wait a few years).
I just recently switched from BC to Depo, partly for the piece of mind of not having to worry, did I take my pill? Am I going to get pregnant?
I know that the best thing for us is to wait - and that is what we are going to do.
..... all that being said....
For some reason, I have babies on the brain --- BAD! Maybe its because DH's best friend and his wife are expecting (they were married only a few months before us), maybe its due to being on this board and seeing all of your beautiful babies (and congrats to those of you who are expecting!), or maybe its because of the recent change in my hormones (due to switching to Depo).... but whatever it is, it is driving me nuts!!!
I just had to vent, and ask -- am I alone? Or have some of you had this feeling too (either now or before you started TTC)??
Re: BOTB!
I understand how you feel. I am so ready but DH and I agreed to wait so babies are on hold for now. It wasn't so bad but now a lot of our friends are pregnant so the urge is definitly there.
But we are enjoying our together time and being able to leave town on a whim without packing up kids!
No, you are totally not alone! DH and I are mentally ready to have kids and before the wedding, we had decided that we would start TTC right after the wedding. But DH wants to go back to school full-time (which I totally support), and we both agreed that a newborn baby and the transition to school would be too much to take on all at once, so we have to wait at least a few years.
When we first made the decision, I had a real hard time with it, but I'm feeling better now. I keep trying to focus on all the fun things that we can do while we're childless that we won't be able to do (or at least as often) after we have children.
Hope this helps you feel less alone. I know it helps me to know I'm not the only one going through this.
- Diane
We go through it all the time- now is just not the ideal time to have our second (and final). It's in the best interest of ALL of us to wait a few months. But, it's hard not to obsess a little.
You are def not alone :-) I was once told that I was born to get married and have babies....already took care of getting married and can't wait to have babies. BUT...we're going to be waiting a few years (!) so we can pay off some of the mortgage and get ready for having a little one. I can't wait - names are picked out already, got my crib bedding on craigslist (John Lennon - discontinued years ago and in great shape!), have the room for the nursery picked out, but need to wait.
Hang in there, we'll get through this BOTB craziness :-)