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Who gets the friends?
My older sister and my best friend growing up are breaking up after an 8 year relationship.
Without going into the gory details of the breakup (it's not pretty) I was wondering if it is unrealistic to include the both of them in future get togethers. They are both a big part of my life.
Right now though it feels like bf is distancing herself due to the my relationship with my sister. BF is a dear friend and I can't imagine her not being a a part of my future. It's as though I'm caught in the middle expected to take a side. Although I don't want to put strain on either of them by having them both in the same room. I don't want to hurt any feelings.
Re: Who gets the friends?
I think you can maintain relationships w/both of them - seperately at first if necessary.
You aren't the one breaking up, so seems to me you shouldn't be penalized for it. I'm on the opposite side (sort of) of a similar situation. My H and I are splitting up and while it's not a contensious split, it's still tough for our friends and family to figure out how to behave now.
Best of luck and ((((hugs))))
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I went through a similar situation last year when two of our closest friends (who we had met as a couple, attended thier wedding, ect) divorced.
It was hard for me to figure out the new dynamic and figure out how to still be friends with both. What i found out its that they will be the ones ultimately to decide. When they first seperated, we made a point to contact and see both separately but an equal amount. As time when on, one of the friends really started distancing herself and now we dont see her at all whereas we see the other friend at least 1-2x a week.
So, my suggestion is to just sit back and let them determine what is comfortable for them; the answer will likely become very clear in the coming months.
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