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Annoyed with coworker!
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I am so so so annoyed with a coworker. She's been employed here slightly longer than I have. But she moved to our dept. maybe a year ago, so I've been in the dept. longer. Every single day, all day long, she asks me to review all her work before she turns it over to her supervisor. And just asks random work related questions. Today for kicks, I counted how many times she's interrupted me to ask things. I'm on 34 on my tally sheet and we haven't completed the day yet. I can't take it anymore. I've tried to gently tell her that she is competent enough to do things on her own. Did no good. Then I started ignoring her at times, like if I'm typing and she is yelling over some questions in the middle of my work. Then I got more blunt and had a conversation wtih her. She still doesn't get it. I am not very busy so I feel if she truely needs help, I need to be supportive, and I am. But much of it is totally unnecessary. Sometimes I think she does it so when she has errors, she can say "well, I had Jenny look it over". I probably spend at least 3 of my 8 hour day answering her questions. Most ?'s don't directly relate to me although I know the answers.
How do I stop this madness? Am I being unreasonable?
How do I stop this madness? Am I being unreasonable?
Re: Annoyed with coworker!
I was hoping it wouldn't come to this! Won't it possibly appear I'm not helpful?
not if you go in with specific examples.
I agree- you may have to escalate to your supervisor.
But here's the other aspect of it - you've talked to her, but in the end, you still do it for her. If you realyl want her to get the message that you can't help her so much, then STOP HELPING. Say "Sorry, I can't help you right now.".
She keeps doing it because while you SAY "I can't help", you don't follow through. The whole saying "Actions speak louder than words"? - your actions are telling her a different story.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Here's another thought- give her a set time each day to talk to you. Later in the day, probably. But allot her 30 mins each day. Whatever you can cover in that time, cover. whatever you dont' get too, oh well.
But perhaps having a set time, she will back off. And make it clear "write down the questions you ahve throughout the day, and at 2 we'll get together and review for 30 mins.".
Then stick to it. Dont' go over 30 mins!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You're probably going to end up having to be somewhat blunt with her, because it sounds likeshe's trying to take advantage of you. Its important that you speak with your supervisor and let them know what's going on. Hopefully, your supervisor will offer some sort of mediation and give you both an open forum to discuss this issue. You co-worker needs to learn to work independently, as well as be more respectful.
If I were you, before I went to my supervisor, I would start asking her questions and doing the same thing she's doing to you, even if you don't need the help. Oftentimes, people can't take their own medicine, even if they don't realize what they're dishing out. Maybe by flipping the scrip on her, she will come to the realization of what she's been doing and stop all of her own.
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I agree with this other aspect. We have a woman in our office who does something similar and no matter how many times you explain to her how to do something, she doesn't get it so we just stopped helping her with it. First she went to my coworker for daily help and my coworker said "figure it out on your own". Then she came to me and I helped her at first until I got annoyed and said "I've already taught you how to do this - please follow the instructions I gave you. If you still don't get it, go to your supervisor".
She hasn't bothered us since. When my supervisor asked me why I stopped helping her I said "I'm not a door mat and I have my own work to do..."
The longer you keep helping her, the less work you get done and at the end of the day - you're there to get your work done, right?