NOW they decide to treat us as married?!?!?!?!

2dBride

For the nearly a decade that NotFroofy has been in this country, the federal government has declined to recognize the possibility that she and I might get married. We've been disadvantaged by this on everything from immigration rights to in-state tuition.

My son is just finishing up getting his security clearance, and he tells me today that he needs a copy of NotFroofy's green card faxed to the relevant authorities. I ask him why he needs this, since it was not requested the last time he got a security clearance. He responds, "Oh, but you weren't married then."

So let me get this straight: Any time being married could possibly benefit us, the federal government will not recognize our marriage. However, when our being married creates extra nuisance requirements, it is recognized?

berriesnpie

I remember when the first few states started same-sex marriage a lot of folks talked about how federal/state government's would be able to treat couples as married only when it suited them. Guess this is an example. One of my friends ran into something similar with a public health insurance program.

Kershnic

The worst of both worlds, how wonderful.  Honestly though, I think any acknowledgment of our relationships (whether good or bad) is a step...  because I believe eventually the inequalities will be noticed and force the issue to be worked out favorably for us.  It's not fair that you have to be the guinea pigs though!