Sis-in-law Blues

BigAl86

Okay, so I know I kind of need to get over it, but I just watched the wedding video and I have to say something to someone before I explode! My sister-in-law had a baby about 15 months before our recent wedding. She is a doting mother..almost to the point of being a fault. She didn't come to my bachelorette party because she didn't feel comfortable leaving the baby with the father for the night. The baby was one year old at this point!

Okay, so I asked her to be a bridesmaid, because both of my sisters were BMs. DUring our ceremony her baby was crying (she was standing up at the alter with me, and the dad had the baby in the pews). Anyhow, after a while he took the baby outside (thank you Paul), but then.... during the ring exchange, all of a sudden she walks back down the aisle to the back of the church while my husband and I were saying our vows. She then, 2 minutes later, comes BACK DOWN THE AISLE with the BABY and proceeds to remain in her designated place at the altar with the baby in arms until the end of the ceremony, and walks back down the aisle with the groomsmen that way at the processional.

Her baby is her entire life, and I love my neice, but the video of my wedding has her.. well, you know. It wasn't even that she chose to interrupt the ceremony, it was more that in the 15 months that her child had been on the earth she couldnt let 20 minutes of those be mine. I have been nothing but a good aunt, but seriously?

So I didnt say anything afterwards even though she didnt really stay for the whole reception so she could take care of the baby (it was a brunch and BBQ afterwards), but I shouldn't say something when I see her for the first time since, in a few days, should I? Im going to let this go, but I want one last rant and ask whether or not I should bring it up?? 

 

weddinginbloom

First of all, congrats on your marriage!  Sorry you had to deal with your SIL's baby attachment issues.  Sounds like your processional was very unique... It does sound pretty inconsiderate of her to lug her baby along during the middle of the ceremony.  Obviously it upset you a lot but at the same time I don't see what good would come of you confronting her about it now.  She would surely get defensive and it may cause a rift between you and your family.  If she didn't get why it was unusual behavior then, I doubt she'll agree now. 

goldgold

I agree. I don't think there's anything to gain by confronting her at this point. Does it suck that she couldn't suck it up for 20 minutes and let her husband take care of the child during the ceremony? Yes. Do think it's worth it to cause a rift now? I don't. I think if you see her doting as debilitating then you should say something, but I wouldn't even bring up the wedding in that case.

BigAl86

Thank you both for your comments. It actually helped at ton just to talk about it and get if off my shoulders. My mother said the same thing. "She's family now and you have to respect that". Anyhow, thanks again!