Sperm donor siblings

Copswife05

I'm watching this show on CNN about adults finding siblings who have the same sperm donor dads and it has me thinking:

1) it's kinda like being half adopted.  I would think the parents would need to tell a child at some point for medical history reasons that their dad they grew up with isn't biologically related

2)  I'm not sure that I would seek out other half biological siblings.

3) It makes me wonder if we have children if we should ever tell them they were created through artificial insemination.

Thoughts?

stripesandspots

Are you adopting?  If so, congrats! What a great decision!!!

If I were adopted or if my mother had used a sperm donor, I would never seek out my biological parents or biological siblings.  So much more goes into being a parent than donating sperm or having given birth - I would consider my adoptive parents my "biological" parents and move on with life.

ShansBride

ha!  when I read the title I was thinking like a brother donating sperm to his brother for him and his wife to make a baby!  This makes much more sense

I agree that it is like being half adopted.  I think though that the medical history is not so important.  H doesn't know his dad.  His mom left him and never told him she was pregnant.  We have looked for him a bit, but his mom's info is sort of hit and miss.  I don't think I would seek out other bio siblings.  To be, biology isn't what makes you a family, the relationships are. 

I don't think telling a child they were created through artifical insemination is a must, but I don't think it is super important they they don't know either.  I think it would probably depend on the parent and the child.

Steven&Jamie

I agree with you on it being a half-adoption situation.  I think it would be nice to know medical history, but at the same time I don't think it's a necessity. 

Speaking from experience, I can say that I would not seek out half-siblings.  My biological father (my parents divorced when I was 10) has 3 other kids and I've never met them and have no desire to at this point in my life.  This probably makes me sound like a cold hearted b!tch, but I don't feel any real connection to them.  I agree with pp's--family is more than biology and genetics.

If our children were created through AI I don't know if we would tell them or not....we definitely wouldn't hide it from them, but I don't know if/when we would tell them either.  

Copswife05

stripesandspots:

Are you adopting?  If so, congrats! What a great decision!!!

If I were adopted or if my mother had used a sperm donor, I would never seek out my biological parents or biological siblings.  So much more goes into being a parent than donating sperm or having given birth - I would consider my adoptive parents my "biological" parents and move on with life.

Thanks! We just have to finish up our parenting classes and then we wait for a match.

ostatekris05

stripesandspots:

Are you adopting?  If so, congrats! What a great decision!!!

If I were adopted or if my mother had used a sperm donor, I would never seek out my biological parents or biological siblings.  So much more goes into being a parent than donating sperm or having given birth - I would consider my adoptive parents my "biological" parents and move on with life.

This.  I may consider having someone else contact them to obtain any relevant medical history (unless this is already done through the adoption agency/sperm donor place? I have no knowledge of this).