Halfway there!

KeyRyn320

Starting Tuesday, our board will be celebrating 6 months of marriage! Congratulations to everyone!!

So, what have you learned about marriage, your hubby or yourself in the past 6 months?

KeyRyn320

I'll start

I have learned that we are a great team when it comes to budgeting and working together on any decision. He has no problems stepping up to do things around the apartment when I'm really tired and he knows that when I'm up to it, I'll handle things as well.

Holly520

DH and I were just talking about our 6 month-aversary today at breakfast.

I've learned that we both have to make compromises and land somewhere in the middle to make the best decisions for both of us.  I also learned this during the wedding, but have continued since we've been married.  This also applies to housework, cooking, etc.  It has seriously come into play in the last few months

SpceCadet

I've learned that I'm thankful that even though these last two months have been challenging, we are still able to laugh and have fun.

Last night we went to a hot dog eating contest and, frankly, I did NOT want to go.  I think hot dogs are nasty and was quite nauseous all day (side effect of a med) and really did not feel like driving a half hour to see people get sick.  H wanted to go sooo badly that I didn't complain.  Once there, he realized how sick I felt and how much I really didn't like the diner selections (I had chicken noodle soup that appeared to be a doctored up can of Campbell's with deli meat chicken and soggy veggies).  He had a great time and made a point of saying thank you for taking him. 

millejj1

I've learned just how supportive he really is! I knew he was amazing and would stand by me through anything, but when I'm down or stressed he really is amazing.

I'm going to ruin the lovefest and throw in there that I've learned he has a total inability to see dirty dishes in the sink! I've tried to wait him out and see how long it takes for him to "get to it" when he says he will and I can't last that long!

I'll take that though if that's the worst he has!

KeyRyn320

You have seen all my vents about DH leaving a trail of lights on in the apartment so trust me, millejj, I feel your pain!

mina&douglas

It's amazing how far our relationship has come, just in the past 6 months.

We finally found our happy medium (something we've been battling for 5 years).

We literally share all responsibilities and once it was layed out who was responsible for what it completely eliminated the "I though you were giong to do that" argument.

 

Misa125

mina&douglas:

We literally share all responsibilities and once it was layed out who was responsible for what it completely eliminated the "I though you were giong to do that" argument.

This.  Especially over the past few weeks we've really gotten on the same page and now we're really working as a "team".

PS- millej: what does the TTCAL in your sig mean?  I know TTC but not sure of the AL part.

bigvoice3

I have learned that this isn't about being "perfect" and being the perfect wife...i.e. cooking and cleaning and being cheery (like I had this image in my head that it would be that way), but its about being real.  Its about laughing together at crazy things and just being together.  The dishes will eventually get done. :-)

EDK2010

I've learned how to be more supportive and I know that sounds weird. I've always been super supportive emotionally for DH. But I have held him to the standard in the past that we share responsibilities equally. Since June he has been back to playing football, but is also working his off-season job part-time so that financially we do not have to touch any of this football money and it can all go into savings. This is setting us up for the purchase of a home in the near future and our move back to the US in January. Because of how busy he is and the stress of playing for a losing team (2-7) I have stepped up and have taken over a lot of his chores. I do all of the housework and anything that will make things easier for him. It was tough at first to not have his help, but it's necessary right now. He will help me out I'm sure when we move in January and I start a new career. We've always been independent and equal, so this is new for me.

millejj1

Misa125:

mina&douglas:

We literally share all responsibilities and once it was layed out who was responsible for what it completely eliminated the "I though you were giong to do that" argument.

This.  Especially over the past few weeks we've really gotten on the same page and now we're really working as a "team".

PS- millej: what does the TTCAL in your sig mean?  I know TTC but not sure of the AL part.

It stands for after a loss. After I miscarried rather than go to a counselor (I hated the thought of talking to some doctor that hadn't lived it) I found myself on the miscarriage and pregnancy loss board over on the bump. The ladies I met there were amazing and so supportive and the best part was they were living the same thing I was and so it was somewhere "normal" to go. (especially since we didn't tell many people IRL, it was a great place to vent) 

Most of the ladies have started trying again and I felt like it was time to "graduate" with them so we could stay in touch so I joined that board too. 

ETA: I should probably add that DH and I aren't doing the charting, actively trying thing yet, we're essentially waiting until we feel like we're ready and totally emotionally healed.