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Drinks for guests - question
I always try to keep drinks stocked for when we have guests. I keep a bunch of stuff in the fridge (maybe like 5-6 cans/bottles) and then the rest in the garage (not far from the kitchen).
We generally don't drink soda or alcohol - but if it is in the fridge, DH drinks it. And then he doesn't always restock, or he does but I don't keep track of how much he drinks - and then people come over and we have nothing cold for them to drink (other than water).
The thing is, DH tries not to drink empty calories (like sweet tea or soda), but if it is there, he drinks it. I got a 6-pack of Snapple a few months ago because the person who we visit the most/comes to visit the most likes Snapple and always has her place stocked (I don't want to go there and drink all her Snapple and then we have nothing to offer her). DH drank it all in a week, and I'm not going to spend more money since we will end up not even having it on hand for guests.
Any suggestions? Our basement & garage are not cold enough keep stuff cold (just in the coldest part of winter). I have told DH that stuff is not for him, but he has no self control. Now he restocks the stuff when he is done, but I can see we are spending all this money on drinks, and I don't have the energy to be buying all this junk.
BTW - I'm the same with junk food - if it is there, I eat it - so I've learned to not have it in view - but that obv doesn't apply to stuff that needs refrigeration. And I'm not "forcing" DH not to drink sugary stuff - he's the one that tells me he can't have it. He just needs a helping hand, I don't know how tho.
Re: Drinks for guests - question
IMO, there's nothing wrong with someone having to use ice.
Keep it in a closet where he doesn't know it is or a cabinet. When he reaches for a drink in the fridge, out of sight, out of mind.
This. Also, what if you put him in charge of buying the drinks and keeping them stocked?
I agree, Abba. You took the words out of my mouth.
I'm not his mom, but they aren't his drinks. He's been told this. Especially if he is not willing to replenish them with his own time, money, and effort hauling them from the store and stacking them in the garage.
I'll just serve over ice. Thx ladies.
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I had this same issue! In the summer people tend to stop over a bit more so I like to have snacks/drinks on hand as well, when its on sale I like to stock up.. well DH felt it as a free for all soooo I wound up keeping them in bags out in the garage and men usually don't go LOOKING for things so I found this to work the best. I just kept the drinks in the garage and use ice if I have to. The beer I actually keep in the fridge, but we don't really drink that on a regular basis, but I like it to offer if people stop over.
I like to have snacks on hand too but like you I will eat it if I see it so what I wind up doing is having stuff that people like but that I don't eat all the time like my main thing is chips/salsa that is always the easiest to throw together if someone stops in but I don't eat it or crave it all the time. Pepperoni and Cheese is another, but I must admit I crave a lot of cheese, but I buy it every week.
If I TOLD my husband not to drink something that "isn't his" he would not be a big fan of that, just sayin'.
He knows the "condition" with the drinks is they have to be replaced if he drinks them. If he wants them, he has to replace them (even if it means bringing more soda in from the garage), and he doesn't. Plus I don't work but I spent the money on the drinks. If DH buys something for himself, I ask him if it's ok if I have some. I hope I'm not sounding snarky.. bottom line, I don't want to be a chump when we have guests and we never have anything for them to drink! Short of hiding soda under the bed! :P And DH isn't being a jerk, he just mindlessly drinks the stuff and he's never home so he doesn't replace anything..
And of course I spent last night throwing up, and the 20-pack of ginger ale I bought is gone.. it woulda been nice to have a heads up on that..
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Really? If he buys food (assuming it's enough to share as in drinks, snacks), you ask him if it's OK to eat it? And technically guests are of your home, which is yours and his, so the drinks shouldn't be yours or his. And as a SAHM isn't any money you spend "his"? I don't see why drinks crosses the line for you when other things don't (say, clothes, etc.) I'm way confused.
This is why we don't split finances. Sh!t gets confusing and weird to me.
I was thinking the same thing....isnt it all combined? and I agree with Ang, Dh would laugh in my face if I said he couldnt have something.
My thought is as a SAHM you take care of the house including keeping beverages re-stocked...why dont you just buy a case of coke or gingerale for your DH and keep one stashed somewhere so that when guests come- you bust it out and use ice...everyone is happy, no?