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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Baby blues
My husband and I have been married for almost a year and a half and I am ready for a baby but he says he isnt. Is there any one out there who has this sam problem?
Re: Baby blues
My husband and I have been talking about waiting until October 2010 to start trying since we got married in May 2009. (The random date was chosen because we are about to go on a very anticipated long-time planned vacation) It took him a while to come around to the idea. We would talk about it every month but always said when the actual time came, we would sit down and decide if we were ready or not. I knew I'd be ready but we weren't going to go forward with anything until he wanted it too. A couple of months ago we were laying in bed about to fall asleep and he turns to me and says, "Babe, I want you to know that I am ready to have kids whenever you are. I love you and I can't wait to start our family together."
I cried. I didn't expect that from him. We wouldn't be going forward with out plans had he not said that.
So my suggestion to you is to just really talk about it. Don't press the issue, but bring it up here and there. You need to ask him what his reservations are exactly. For my husband, it was mostly that he was afraid of the changes and responsibility that come with it; as well as the unknown. Everyone's future is unknown though. It's what makes living your life so much fun. His fears were overcome by the idea of what our love can create by making a baby.
Good luck with your journey. Make sure you are both ready; and have those 'tough' talks. Better to get everything out on the table before a baby is even in the picture.
We too got married in May 2009, I had always had in my mind that we would get married and not long after start having kids. (that has been my dream since I was little) But then he decided that he is not ready and wants to "live" a little. We have gotten into some arguments over this. I know in time he will change his mind I just have to learn to be patient. But its so hard... Well I am glad to know I am not the only one who has felt this way or is going through a situation like this.
Congrats to you though for the exciting news that you get to start trying! I hope everything goes smoothly!!
A good place to start might be for him to make of list of some of the things he wants to do before you guys start trying. Work to cross things off that list, so that when you do decide to move forward there's no resentment and no "well, we didn't do x,y and z like *I* wanted to."
We had a list