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Thoughts on Baptism Reception with Adults only
We're hosting a baptism reception here at our house at 3pm. We're serving champagne and deserts. Should this be an adults only event? I have friends that have babies as well (all under age one) and call me selfish (i know) but I really want my baby to be the center of attention at her baptism day. Do you think having other cute babies at the reception, takes away the purpose of the reception.
Re: Thoughts on Baptism Reception with Adults only
Definitely not okay. In my opinion, children should be invited to this type of event. If the parents choose not to bring them, then that's their prerogative. If they are all under one you can have the same type of menu, just be sure to have non-alcoholic drinks as well.
I don't see how having other babies there will make the day any less about your own baby.
If you tell people they can't bring their babies, you can pretty much count on none of them showing up. I know I'd pass if I was told my son couldn't come. It's not like it's a formal evening wedding or a boozy birthday party in a bar. Get over yourself.
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Yeah, "I don't want other kids at my kid's 4th birthday party because they might compete with my angel's cuteness"
"my child can be the only one at the prom so there's no chance anyone else wind prom queen/king"
Are you serious???
IF you are not, you're a git.
Well, at least she admits there are other cute babies out there.
Another thought:
Isn't the purpose of a baptism reception to celebrate a child's entrance into her faith and joining with God or am I wrong on this one?
And doesn't God love all cute babies, not just yours?
No, I think you turning it into a cocktail party with adults only takes away from the purpose of the event.
It is the celebration of the religions cleansing of your child's SOUL and God's acceptance of them into heaven...
You must have missed out on Matthew 19:14 where JESUS CHRIST said: "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."
Wow...
You realize your kid will have no idea what's going on, right? That there could be 400 Gerber babies there and your kid would still not know the difference? And that, during a child's Christening reception, it will spit up on itself, snot all over everyone, need its diaper changed and wail like a banshee and people will still love it and pat attention to it because that's why they're all there.
Have you ever been to a Christening?
I agree with pp--you're turning this into a cocktail party all about yourself and you want other adults to coo to you about how cute your spawn is.
Get over yourself.
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This was my first thought. She must think her baby is ugly and is hoping if there are no other babies there (that are obviously cuter than hers) that no one will notice.
ETA: A christening is a celebration for your child and not one ounce about you. I think champagne is inappropriate for this type of event. I'm not saying there shouldn't be alcohol, but specifically making it a champagne type of event is centering your child's baptism around adult themes.
I... really... wow.
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On her first birthday, are you going to not invite any other children so she can be the centre of attention?
On her first day of school, are you going to ask that no one else be allowed into class so she can be the centre of attention?
When she graduates, should no other grad be allowed to walk up there so as not to take away from her being the centre of attention?
If she gets married, should no other women be invited so she can be the centre of attention?
Is that really the kind of expectation and attitude you want your child to be growing up surrounded by?
Seriously, I am not religious in the least bit but even I know that the PURPOSE of a baptism is not to drink champagne and eliminate any other cute babies from the vicinity of your child. Some parties call for an adults only reception...a baptism is really not one of them.
I also think it is pretty bizarre of you to consider not allowing your friends to bring their own babies, as they may overpower your own baby. If I was your friend and had an infant and was told I could not bring my infant to a baptism reception, I would be rethinking my friendship, and not coming to your reception. I don't even HAVE kids and if I knew that was happening (and your reasons) I would not want to go.
It is unreasonable to "ban" other babies from this event. I am betting that some of the guests that you have invited (and want to witness this blessed event in your family's life) have children? Odds are they will not be able to make it if their children are not included. Then there will be no one to ogle at your daughter's baptism or be there for you to help you share this event.
I really think that if you are serious you need to realize that there will be a number of occasions where your baby will be in the midst of groups of babies. She/he will not always be the "center of attention" and gasp! may not be the cutest baby in the room at one point.
You need to reconsider your motives for hosting this event for your daughter. If you are doing it as a tradition, rite-of-passage & religious event then by all means go ahead. However, it sounds less like you are doing this for the benefit of your baby's soul & more to attention-whore her out for your own benefit. If this offends you then there is nothing for it. When I was reading your post this just screamed attention-whore mommy.
Good luck. Its time you get back to the root of what you are attempting to commemorate as opposed to looking for attention for your baby or yourself. You should be ashamed of yourself & this post.
Grow up.
If your kid is so cute, why would you be worried about other's outshining her?
In fact, why would you worry about that at all? That wouldn't even cross my mind...
No kidding, how strange!
Another thought:
Isn't the purpose of a baptism reception to celebrate a child's entrance into her faith and joining with God or am I wrong on this one?
You are somewhat correct about this.
Baptism is an outward commitment to Jesus Christ; to show that they have trusted in Him as Savior. This makes sense to be done as an adult or when you are sincere about your commitment. Since babies are unable to make this decision, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to do it as an infant. People think that by baptizing, their child "gets into Heaven" but that is not the case. Baptizing does not "get rid of sins" John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."
Though there is nothing in the Scriptures about when to baptize, like I explained, it doesn't make sense to do it before a person is able to understand what it represents.
Now, since baptism is something that a Christian is supposed to partake in, Christians are to be like Jesus and he was never selfish. What is the motive of your heart for this reception? Be careful that your child is not an idolatry.
In my experience close friends and family come together after witnessing a baptism, including children, and this celebration includes some sort of food and of course desert- but champagne as a main item? Um, I assume you and most of your friends with babies are nursing... so why serve it if you and a number of your guests can't enjoy it? It's a baptism, not an adult social... Perhaps that's all you've been familiar with up until now?
The purpose of the reception is to bring your Christian family together to celebrate affirming your child as a Christian, yes? Focus on that, not trying to garner attention needlessly. That attitude will really end up hurting your sweetie in the future. Some of these comments are a bit harsh, but it's how you come across in your post...
The only think that took away from my kid was the 7 hour open bar and the kick ass DJ we had who play games with the other children.
I can not tell you how hard I rolled my eyes at this bull shiit.
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