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WWYD?
My mom is having surgery at St. V's on Wednesday the 22nd and has asked me to drive her. She will be in the hospital overnight. I am due the 23rd, if the baby IS here by then I highly doubt I am going to be up for driving to toledo and I def don't want the baby spending the day in a hospital waiting room. If the baby isn't here yet, I am not overly keen on the idea of being out of town so close to my due date, but at the same time I know I can't just sit at home and do nothing knowing that she's in the hospital. I did not plan on telling anyone when I went in to labor because I don't really want anyone there except Chase til after the baby is born.... but if I go in to labor my whole family will know and then I would feel guilty and feel like we need to call the IL's too... Plus we will have to leave Findlay between 5 and 5:30 am cause she has to be there at either 6 or 6:30 but her surgery isn't until 8:30.
I am really frustrated that she picked that day since she could have had the surgery this week and she would be home already...
So anyway... would you agree to drive her or ask her to line up a different ride and go up closer to when the surgery starts? Chase thinks I should just stay home.
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Agreed.
I would ask her to find someone else to drive her that is going to definitely be able to do it because:
1. If you have had the baby already you are most likely going to be on a driving restriction. I was told I wasn't allowed to drive for 2 weeks after having Jake, that is pretty common. Plus you really aren't supposed to take baby out of the house for a few weeks to protect them from picking up diseases, so there's another excuse right there.
2. You could be IN the hospital the day of her surgery, there's a good possibility you could be in labor or be recovering in the hospital, then that would leave her trying to find another ride at the last minute.
As to whether or not you should go if you haven't had the baby, just play it by ear and see how you feel about it closer to the surgery.
I have NO idea. I quit trying to figure her out. I know the surgery is important and she needs to have it sooner rather than later but I don't understand why she didn't do it this week. Or next week.
And if worse comes to worse, blame your OB..thats what theyre there for. Just tell her your doctor put you on some sort of restriction from driving that close to your due date or something....
Give her cab fare, lol.
There is no flippin' way I would ever agree to do that. And I am 100% in agreement with you on only having you and chase at the hospital until you want to share it all with family.
WTF was she thinking?? For real.
I don't think I could have said it better. What is she going to do if you go into labor on the way there? There has to be someone else who can take her. Don't feel bad at all.
Our baby girl!!
This sounds good!
Yeah I'm all for passing the blame around to someone other than myself..haha
This! And you are better then I because I would have flipped out when she asked and would have straight up asked her WTF she was thinking!!!
My mom doesn't have anyone else to help her in our family; her husband passed away 2 years ago. So if I was in the same situation, I could see my mom asking me to drive her and I wouldn't be angry with her for that.
If this is your 1st baby...more than likely you won't deliver on your due date anyways. So chances are actually pretty good for you that you will be able to take her.
Let her know that as long as everything stays status quo, you can do it. But you could maybe offer to help her arrange a back-up plan in case you do go into labor or have already had the baby and are on driving restricitions.
my brother lives with her and would be riding w us, she just doesnt want him driving because he drives like an old lady.
I think she just needs to suck it up and ride with your old lady driver of a brother this time. It doesn't matter if you are a first time mom or not and might go into labor past your due date. You live what, an hour or so away from here??? I had my first child early!!! It does happen.
I would tell her she needs to rely on your brother for the ride considering that you are so close to due date, but tell her you will play it by ear and if you can drive her you will, but that she shouldn't expect you to. I was so uncomfortable at the end that even 20 minute car rides got to be uncomfortable.