Some Advice

saralynn7

I'm not entirely sure that this is a huge problem for me yet, but there's potential for it to be a problem in the future without a few tweaks now. Basically my husband and I have been married a little over a year and have been dating for 6 years this October. At this point in our lives we're both students, he's finishing up is Bachelor's degree and I'm just finishing up my Master's degree, and we're also completing unpaid full time internships so financial concerns are always there. That being said, we only have sex about once or twice a month lately and I'm assuming it's due to stress for the most part and I'm blaming it equally on both of us. When we were first dating for the first couple of years we were long distance but we would see each other on the weekends and we couldn't keep our hands off of each other, he then moved down to where I was attending college and we would see each other regularly and still had a healthy sexual relationship. It just seems that now that we're in the middle of such a stressful time of our respective educations that the sex life is dwindling. What I'm really looking for here is some ways to increase the desire for both of us and keep that spark at least lit until we have more time to devote to each other and our physical relationship. Thanks!

kellygraham17

My husband and I go through times like this.  He is a special education teacher, so both the beginning and the end of school are very stressful for him.  We had to implement a "rule" in our house that no matter what was going on or how stressed we are, we have to make time at least once a week just for eachother.  The phones go off, the computers go off.  Usually, a movie or one of our favorite tv program goes on (just any excuse to cuddle on the couch for a couple hours) Sometimes it leads to sex, no matter how stressed we are, and sometimes it doesn't.  For us, that's not the important part.  The important part to keep the fire is just every week carving out designated time for eachother.  Those are just my thoughts anyway...

beth5507

My husband and I are both teachers, and I'm a music teacher, which means I am even busier due to my after school rehearsals and concerts throughout the year, so I know exactly what you are talking about.

Believe it or not, scheduling is a good idea.  It might take some of the romance and spontanatiy out of it, but sometimes with busy people, that's the way to go.  Set aside one night a week as date night and set aside sex time.

saralynn7

Thanks ladies, I'll give scheduling a try and see how it goes