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Random anger
I feel like I need to have a tshirt made that says "NO, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MY MEAL. IT WAS GREAT JUST LIKE I TOLD YOU. I WOULDN'T ASK FOR A BOX IF IT SUCKED. I KNOW IT'S WEIRD THAT A FAT GIRL DOESN'T EAT MUCH. STOP QUESTIONING ME." I also need it to be all yelly like that.
Seriously, every time I have gone out to eat since my surgery the waiter/waitress has questioned or remarked that I didn't eat much. This is despite the fact that when they come to ask how everything is I respond with an enthusiastic, "great!". I don't feel like I should have to explain myself every time I want to eat.
On the positive side, I've lost 51 lbs since surgery and 82 since January. So that helps make me less stabby.
Re: Random anger
Congrats on all your weight loss! That is super impressive. You must feel like a whole new person!
I know you're from the 'Cuse so you're used to busting a cap in someone's ass whenever they cross you, but the waiters/waitresses aren't asking you that because you're a "fat girl [who] doesn't eat much". You're just being self conscious!
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
wow, congrats on your great weight loss, Vicki!
I agree that they aren't asking you because they think you're "fat." I've gone to dinner not very hungry and taken most of it home and had to assure them several times that the food was fine, I just was done eating it. I can see how it would still be annoying though--anything that occurs over and over again would get annoying. just keep it up the great work!
That is awesome about the weight loss!
I would go into graphic detail about why you aren't eating very much, what will happen if you do, etc...that'll learn 'em.
Go Vicki!!
And yes, I agree with everyone else that it hasn't got to do with a person's size but rather that satisfaction with a meal is oft judged by joining the clean plate club.
Vicki, I'm so impressed with you! How much more do you want to lose?
I can totally understand getting stabby over it, but I think the waitstaff is just making sure you weren't disappointed in the food (though the fact that you are bringing it home should indicate that).
My h and I went to a restaurant and he couldn't eat his food - it was way too spicy (like unbearably spicy - and this is coming from a girl who douses her food in hot sauce). He never complained, but the manager came over and ended up comping the meal anyway. I thought that was a classy move.
You're my hero Vicki. That is incredible.
I have 2 suggestions to avoid/handle this situation.
#1, the dieter's method) Ask for a box when your meal comes out. Box up the part you're not going to eat yourself. The server will never know how much you did/didn't eat.
#2, the McFinehiney method) When the server remarks that you didn't eat much, tell them that you really have to poop. Like real bad. Don't go into too much detail, but throw out terms like 'Prarie Dogging' and 'Cuban Missile Crisis' and explain that you have OCD and cannot use a public toilet for #2, so you cannot put anything else in your mouth, or you might just poop yourself.
Then, the next time you go back to that restaurant, request the same server. They probably won't ask again.
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Congrats on the weight loss. That's amazing.
I like Groomz's first suggestion of asking for a box right away. I used to wait tables during college and the servers are probably just wanting to make sure that nothing was wrong. It was in our training because for as many people that complain there are as many people who don't complain but never come back. I also know that if I don't like something at dinner I will box it up and take it to DH because he will eat almost anything.
I can see where it would get annoying but just remember you more than likely have a different person each time you dine out waiting on you. They're not trying to be annoying but actually helpful.
Congrats again.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Thanks for talking me down. I'm sure you guys are right, that a lot of it is me feeling self conscious. Going out to eat just makes me feel weird all together because I can't drink while I eat and have to wait 5 minutes between bites, which creates a lot of awkwardness. I still say that I should stop being asked when I tell them it's good though.
Anyway, it will be a non-issue because I'll be utilizing the Groomz McFinehiney method from this point forward.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Noooooo. When you're in a restaurant, you take your knife and "shiv! shiv!"
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Congrats Vicki!! That's really great! What is your target?
When I don't eat my dinner at a restaurant I just tell them I filled up on bread and wine before the dinner got there. Most of the time, that's actually true.
That's a great weight loss!
Will you always have to do the waiting between bites, or is that just an interim thing?