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Help celebrating DH's birthday!!
DH's 27th birthday is October 27th and our new baby girl is due October 15th. He has expressed some concern that I'll forget all about his birthday because she will steal the spotlight, and concern that I'll forget about him all together once the baby is here. From "Will you still buy clothes for me?" to "Will you steal clean my glasses when they're smudgey?" So I want to make sure he knows that he's still important, even though I know he will be just as enamored with her as I am and probably not even notice that he's being neglected.
Anyway, I know that his birthday is a big deal for him but I don't know what to do to celebrate it. I think his family lumped it together with Halloween celebrations his whole life which he wasn't a fan of, plus my sister's birthday is actually on Halloween so we can't have a party for him and not acknowledge her. Ever since we've been together we've had friends over for drinks and food but that's too much to handle this year because of baby girl.
Does anyone have any ideas? Keep in mind baby girl could be anywhere between just a few days old and one month old depending on when she plans to grace us with her presence!!
Re: Help celebrating DH's birthday!!
Okay, I'm really trying not to sound mean, but your DH really needs to understand that your DD will be the priority!!! I'm not saying that he and your marriage are not important too, but I really hope he will not try to guilt trip you for not having a huge event b/c you will be tired--from labor and from being a mom and being up a lot, getting into a new routine, etc. Please don't feel guilty for not doing a huge celebration! Okay--I know you were not asking for that so I'm sorry for getting off topic...
What about ordering take out from his favorite upscale resturant and having a low-key candlelight dinner at home? Eat on your best dishes, get a little dressed up and make it an elegant night You could also order in a movie he's been wanting to see and make it a dinner/movie date.
Congrats on the baby!
What about surprising him with gathering friends/family to a nice restaurant for dinner and drinks. Maybe do a comedy show or something together afterwards??? I'm not sure what you have available in the area.
You could make it look like you're just taking him out for a birthday dinner (nothing special) and then surprise him with everyone there! That way it's about him and his b-day, but not too over-the-top. He's 27, so it's not a big one and you don't need to go all out for it (especially since you are having a baby and will be spending a lot of $$$ on her)!
Hi! That is so close to your due date - you should make a list of RSVP telephone numbers and e-mails to keep handy in case you have to post-pone your party due to a later delivery.
Good Luck!
To be blunt your DH needs to grow up, clean his own glasses, and understand this year (and many more to come) his bday is going to be second fiddle. I'm going to guess that even at 3 weeks post partum the last thing you are going to want to do is go to a restaurant with even a small group of people and eat dinner.
I wouldn't plan much beyond cake and ice cream at your house with friends. Buy some good presents now and get a gift cert to a nice restaurant. Include a coupon for a sitter and tell him you will have a date night at a later time.