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Awkward Semi-Quit Situation
My husband's job moved us to a new town in middle America. It's small, and I thought the best place to work would be in the same large company that brought him there. I applied for two jobs, and I was interviewed and hired for one of them. It's not something I've done before, but it fits with my skills.
Turns out, the pay is really low and the job is very simple. I have worked there for two and a half months, and I have done my best. I've made big improvements and tackled projects that have been waiting for solutions for months. The people I work with are different that people I've worked with before in that they are slower at their jobs and frequently talk with their boss about little things (i.e. Can I send this email?)
This job has been driving me to tears lately due to the stress. Here's the thing: the stress doesn't come from the actual job duties: it comes from my coworker. She drives me crazy, and she is constantly interrupting my work flow with long, unrelated-to-work stories.
On Friday, my boss called a meeting with me and this coworker to "talk about some questions that have arisen." My coworker has come to my boss saying that I ask her too many questions and that I work too fast. My boss asked if I had anything to say about my coworker, and I mentioned the stories. Unfortunately, I was emotional that day (stupid PMS) and cried through most of the meeting. I did not see this coming, and I thought even though we irritated each other, we were mostly friends (I'd bring her lunch, I'd stop what I was doing to listen to her stories, I'd cover the desk for her, etc).
After the meeting, I decided to talk to my boss about my feelings and to quit. My husband and I have been talking about this job and how I'm an emotional wreck from it (coming home from work crying). It doesn't seem like a good fit, and I tell my boss this. I say, I enjoy the work, but the interactions with my coworkers is causing me too much stress. It's just not working out, I'd like to quit.
My boss lists all my accomplishments with the new projects, and she asks me to stick it out a little longer. She basically ignores my quitting.
So today will be my first day of quasi-quit. I'm going to work on time, and it will be me and the angry coworker together in the morning before everyone else gets here. I am worried and I am nervous that nothing will change, even though our boss encouraged us to work on communication. I am planning to smile and keep my head down. I've already applied for some other jobs.
What do you think I should do? Should I give it time or should I talk to my boss today and quit?
Re: Awkward Semi-Quit Situation
I think you should sit down with your co-worker and hash this out. Explain that you're sorry about the way the meeting played out last week, and you want to talk to her about how the 2 of you can work together better, especially coming from different places where the pace is a little different. Discuss each other's working styles and how best to work together to keep the company moving forward.
If it works out, great. If not, talk to your boss again and see how you should move forward.
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That is what we did in the meeting on Friday, with the mediation of my boss. We came up with a code of "Ask me later" or "Tell me later" if we don't like the tone or if it's not a good time.
So far, she came to work late and forgot her keys, so she had to use mine. I'm being friendly, quiet and responsive when she needs me. We'll see how the rest of the day goes!
This is picune and mamby pamby; your boss should have nipped this in the bud when that other person opened the bottle of whine:
On Friday, my boss called a meeting with me and this coworker to "talk about some questions that have arisen." My coworker has come to my boss saying that I ask her too many questions and that I work too fast.
He should have said, "I see no problem with that. Have a good day" and then made sure the situation stayed where it was: dead in the water.
And he should have done this when she came to him; let the situation progress no further and it should not have involved you being called in.
I'd look for another job if I were you. That guy should not be a manager.
I somewhat agree, somewhat disagree. The OP was talking about how everyone around her was slow and asked a lot of questions, which may just be their working style, and seems to make the OP out to be a bit snobby. And if she has a CW who talks a lot about non-work stuff during the day, it's her responsibility to nip that in the bud, not her boss's, especially if the boss doesn't know it's going on until The Big Meeting.
Lots of blame to go around, and lots of things that could have been done differently, and can be done differently, to work this out.
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