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Poll: Fighting
What do you and DH fight about the most?
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Re: Poll: Fighting
It has to either be the toilet seat, or the fact that his dirty socks magically appear ALL OVER the house. I found one in the freezer once.
Seriously.
Ours is money. And the fact that I feel like second fiddle (well, usually further down than second). We just fought about it this weekend.
I know that he's used to taking care of himself and HAVING to be selfish when it comes to stuff (his mother died when he was younger and he never really spent much time with his dad before HE died, so I get it) but it still annoys the crap out of me that the things that I say and do don't seem to matter to him as much as things that HE wants to do.
I was so ticked this weekend - as you can probably tell.
We honestly don't fight that much. If one of us is overwhelmed with everything going on in life, we have a snap/breakdown....where we yell at the other and then feel so bad we end up having a breakdown vent session!
We had such a rough time with the wedding and his family before we got married and since we are two opposite ends people (I am super anal and he is super relaxed fly by the seat of his pants) we had to learn how to communicate in ways that help each other that we don't fight much now. Brett has ADD and I grew up with an ADHD brother and a ADD mother so I have learned how to work in way that works best for both of us.
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We fight about disipline, dss is 4 and we have different ideas on how things should be handled. It is a strange (also pretty awesome and fun) thing being a stepmom, learning something new everyday.
Probably money. Sometimes, I feel like my needs or DS' needs get pushed lower because H wants something. It's usually something ridiculously expensive and not a necessity at the time he wants to buy it. (Like tires and rims for his summer-only Mustang just before winter last year.)
The only other thing we disagreed on was punishing DS and I finally found a way to get through to him about that. (He wanted to isolate a 18-month-old in a bedroom and close the door and I told him that felt like abandonment.)?
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Penny, are you SURE we aren't married to the same guy? MH just justified a $150 shopping spree to Cabelas (he needed duck decoys) and I got.......nothing. I totally hear where you are coming from.
We mainly argue about him working late and not calling me to let me know. ?He's a workaholic and who has NO concept of time. ?We used to carpool to work together downtown because I work 8:30-4:30 and he works 8-5. ?I'd drop him off and pick him up. ?5:30 was usually the earliest he'd come out to the car (leaving me just sitting in his work parking lot) and there were many times it would be 6:00, 6:30, and as late as 7:30 one night. ?Since having DD we stopped carpooling (thank goodness) because I work from home three days a week, but now we argue because I'll have dinner ready or be waiting on him to get home so that I can get my work done (I work in the evenings my three days a week at home). ?What peeves me the most about the whole ordeal is that he doesn't even have the courtesy to call and give me a heads-up or ballpark idea of when to expect him home! ?If I call and ask him, he'll tell me what he has left to do like I'm supposed to know how long that takes. ?He'll just throw out some random number like "probably another hour" and then it's another 2 hours before he's leaving work. ?
?He gets paid salary so it's not like I can just remind myself that he's getting paid overtime for staying so late because that's not the case! ?He just doesn't get the whole idea of calling me ahead of time when it looks like he'll be staying late and that drives me crazy!?
It drives me nuts! The most money I've spent on myself in the last 2 years is $70 for two pairs of tennis shoes. He just spent $300 on a manifold for his car that he's not even sure he can use. (It's from an Explorer; he ended up loaning it to a friend because he's doing cosmetic work on his manifold that goes on his DAILY driver. Yeah. Ridiculous.)?
TTC Baby #2 - BFP on 12/14/11 @ 10DPO - CP confirmed 12/18/11
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