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Vacation with inlaws....Am I an idiot?
My inlaws are fantastic. I get along with them like I get along with my own family. MIL and FIL are constantly conscious of H and my space as a married couple, always letting us know that we don't need to feel like we have to do or like certain things just because they suggest something...blah blah blah...SIL was a friend of mine before H and I met and we still get along well.
The MIL and FIL have just offered us the trip of a lifetime. It's too a country I've always wanted to go, the place we'd be staying at would be completely free. H and I have enough points to fly there and back for free as well so we would only need to pay for booze/food/touristy things. We'd be staying for 2 weeks with MIL/FIL/SIL/BIL. We haven't decided 100% if we're going but all signs are pointing to a big fat YES. We kinda feel like we just can't turn this opportunity down, it's our dream vacation, the one that we said we'd want to make sure before we have kids.
I told H I'd just want him to make sure his parents are aware that we'd want to go out on our own every now and then and I'd want to make sure they're okay with that before hand. He said that 'of course they would be, but I'll let them know".
Is there something else I'm not seeing? Do you think this is going to be a mistake or would you go for it too?
Re: Vacation with inlaws....Am I an idiot?
ILs respect your boundaries? Check
IL are polite to you? Check
H is willing to have a casual reminder talk with them before you leave? Check
Sounds like the trip would awesome and there's no reason not to go.
Sounds like the chance of a lifetime. I would also look into maybe booking a hotel for just you & H mid-trip for a side exercusion, to build in a cushion.
We vacation with my parents and sibling (and his family) all the time.
If we go for a week, we may all do something together during the day once or twice. The rest of the time, we're all doing our own thing. It works out well.
YAY!!!! okay now that FM approves I know I can't be over looking anything! looks like I'm going on vacation!!!
Thanks!
and I think I'll look into the idea of getting a hotel room for a night or two with the H
eeeeeeeeeee!!!!
I'd totally go.
Can you share what country it is?
We travel with my in laws a lot, same circumstances as well, SIL was a friend of mine before H and I got together. We have a great time with them and enjoy hanging out with them, they respect us as a couple and H and I usually plan for a date night or something when we go away. We've never had a problem and to us, it's like travelling with a group of friends. GOgogogo, it sounds like a great trip.
Italy, Germany and Austria (Italy is the one I really want to go to)
You're only an idiot if you don't go!!!
Have fun!
We went to Italy for two weeks with my parents, siblings, and extended family, and we had a blast.
As long as you're dealing with people who are consistently respectful and treat you well -- which it sounds like you are -- there shouldn't be a reason not to go! Have a wonderful time!
i'd probably go.
DH and I did a vacation with my family before and we all had a blast, we had enough couple time and family time.
if we would have had the time we probably would have went on the family trip FIL paid for, but i was going on a vacation the week before and DH didn't have any vacation time.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
YAY for you getting to go to Italy- I'm jealous! As far as IL are concerned, sounds like they are great, and probably won't bother you much on your trip. I'd just let them know ahead of time that you have things that you want to do on your own. H and I have gone on vacation with his parents twice prior to being married. Both times we pretty much had to do what they wanted to do and didn't have much "us time"-- sucked majorly. We've agreed to go to the beach with them next July... but this time we will be driving our own vehicle and plan on doing our own thing.
Definitely go!!!
I have a similar relationship with my ILs it sounds like and my H and I go on vacations with his family ALL the time! We all have a great time together and on our own as a couple!
Start packing! :-)
you should already be gone right now!
if you don't go you will regret it forever.
Sounds great!, we do it all the time and always have a blast.