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Like hitting a wall
I just got married and I found out that I have vaginimus. Anyone else have this?
Re: Like hitting a wall
Yup I had it... Can you insert anything at all into your vagina; tampon, finger, q-tip? I couldn't do anything at all myself but had my hymen punctured during a surgery for an ovarian cyst to help. After that, I used spacers and was eventually able to have pain free sex
If you can insert at least a tampon you probably will do just fine using spacers, but if not you need to see your doctor. If they are unhelpful and tell you to take a hot bath and drink some wine to solve your problem go to someone else until you get the help and understanding you need and deserve. Here is a helpful website where I got my spacers from:
vaginismus.com
I think I might have it. I got married three weeks ago and the married three weeks ago and it has been physically impossible to consummate the marriage. Both my H and I are so frustrated. He is not understanding and I have ended up depressed and in tears daily. He has even stopped kissing me. He tells me that I need to get this taken care of NOW, but so far trying to find a doctor that is helpful has not happened.
How did you get diagnosed? Do you have an understanding doctor?
If your husband was able to wait until you were married he should calm down and be patient a little longer. Being secure and trusting with your spouse is crucial in overcoming vaginismus.
I googled the listed gynocologists covered by my health insurance and explored their websites if they had them. The one I ended up choosing was 15 years experienced with the issues I was having. Another way you could find a doctor is by just calling their office and asking if they handle problems with vaginismus/pain with sex/unconsummated relationship etc. This disorder is becomig pretty well known these days so you shouldn't have to hunt too hard. Good luck!