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Um whoops

So MIL was over yesterday waiting for our repair guy for the washing machine.

My journal may have been under some magazines on the bottom shelf of a coffee table with magazines on top of it. Yeah not a lot of nice things said about her in there, last time I wrote in it was mostly around the the wedding.

No idea if she read it, and yes I am a moron for leaving it there but I am only slightly anxious at the idea that she snooped. I mean she could never say anything (though she might) but it would definitely add to the strain. Embarrassed

I think she possibly snooped in my medicine cabinet and found my prenatal vitamins that I hid.  

Re: Um whoops

  • Yikes, it totally sux that you have this many issues with your MIL.

    But honestly it might be better if she found it and read it.  I mean I wish my MIL would see how her actions affect me and DH.

    Then again, if she's really bad, she may be ok with any strain put on the relationship. <unfortunately>

  • That is what I was thinking in a way. Mostly I vented about how dh's parents messed up his credit and how his father told him the night before the wedding that the wouldn't go because they ordered flowers behind our back and dh told them we didn't want them. I called them garbage though, and am totally not telling dh this unless it comes out. I mean if I don't need to worry about dh reading my stuff it sucks that I have to worry about her.

  • That's a tough situation.  Based on some of the stories you have told about MIL I bet she did snoop.  Sorry you have to deal with a MIL like this.  It'll be interesting to see if she drops any hints about her discoveries if she did find and read the journal and find the PNVs.
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  • Based on what you have said about her in the past, there is no doubt in my mind she read your journal.  To her, finding your journal was probably like Charlie finding the Golden Ticket on Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory without the Oompa Loompas and and creepy boat ride.

    Aside from you maybe writing some stuff about her in there, she probably noticed and read a lot of what you said about how much you love Scott and how happy you all are, etc....Maybe her reading that made her realize you are good for her baby.  It might actually be good that she read it so that she can see how she really is...might have been a good wake-up call.

    As for the pre-natals, you've got your story figured out for that already; good vitamins, remember?!

  • Hmmm crud now I need to go back and read some other things, I was more worried about the stuff about her than anything else I wrote. I mostly just wanted something I could look back on because the older I get the more I forget small details and I would like to have some record of special occassions.

    Now I am worried about other things that I am maybe written I kind of censor myself in it which is sort of lame but you never know what your kids might think of you. LOL

  • Okay I broke down and told dh he seems pretty certain she wouldn't read it, that made me feel a little better he knows her pretty well and def doesn't put her on any type of moral pedestal.

  • imagePookums:

    Okay I broke down and told dh he seems pretty certain she wouldn't read it, that made me feel a little better he knows her pretty well and def doesn't put her on any type of moral pedestal.



    Let's hope your DH is right and she didn't read it.
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    imagePookums:

    Okay I broke down and told dh he seems pretty certain she wouldn't read it, that made me feel a little better he knows her pretty well and def doesn't put her on any type of moral pedestal.



    Let's hope your DH is right and she didn't read it.

    I know I am reaching here, and honestly the stuff about her isn't even what worries me I was basically venting about bad stuff she really did do. It's the other more personal stuff I am getting anxious about now.

  • Well if she did read it she can't say anything because then she would look bad if it came out that she did. I like what someone said in that maybe she read how much you love Scott and that you are really good for him. I'm sorry you have to deal with a MIL like that.
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  • I hope she didn't, that's pretty low. But if she did, maybe it will make her be nicer? I know if I learned personal things about someone it would probably make me be more understanding of them. Maybe she'll feel closer to you, which she obviously wants - snooping through your trash outside and all - and then she'll step back a little. I'm reaching I think...
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  • Thanks guys, I know I must seem really nutty.

    So I went home over lunch and re-read the whole thing (yeah not as much to read as I thought). I am not worried at all anymore, there is just one snippet in there where I vented about her cheesy shower gifts (for guests) but really that is it. I actually did write a lot about how lucky I felt and and even how hot I thought dh was, yay me. Anything else even the bad stuff about her or dh I would actually say to them.

  • imagePookums:

    Thanks guys, I know I must seem really nutty.

    So I went home over lunch and re-read the whole thing (yeah not as much to read as I thought). I am not worried at all anymore, there is just one snippet in there where I vented about her cheesy shower gifts (for guests) but really that is it. I actually did write a lot about how lucky I felt and and even how hot I thought dh was, yay me. Anything else even the bad stuff about her or dh I would actually say to them.

    oh good! What a relief! Now hide that thing!
    Campbell James - 3.6.2010
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  • I'm glad to hear that you're not too worried about it now.  That's so sucky that you have to worry about her snooping around in your stuff!
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  • You may or may not remember that I once posted about MIL's friend telling MIL that I "blog" on TK/TN. I remember freaking out and feeling like I was being spied on. I was worried that MIL's friend would tell her all the stuff that I had posted on TK about her. I got over it pretty quickly though. If MIL had called me out then I would have called her out for having her friends spying on me. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. What's done is done (if it's done at all).

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    You may or may not remember that I once posted about MIL's friend telling MIL that I "blog" on TK/TN. I remember freaking out and feeling like I was being spied on. I was worried that MIL's friend would tell her all the stuff that I had posted on TK about her. I got over it pretty quickly though. If MIL had called me out then I would have called her out for having her friends spying on me. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. What's done is done (if it's done at all).

    I def remember, and you are so right. Mostly I told myself to suck it up and be prepared for the confrontation I mean there were def things she could be upset about but oh well these things happen, for all I know she read it the last time she was here.

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