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Parenting Question...
So question, I was looking around on the nest and there was this blow up from TIP and the bump 6-9 mo about this ladies 14 year old daughter wanted to go on BCP to regulate her cycle but the mom said she freaked out because she thinks her DD wants to have mattress mambo?
When do you think is an appropriate age to start talking to your kids about everything related to mattress mambo (pregnancy, STD, BCP, in general protecting them selves?)
I was really cuaght of guard when reading through this because obviously I don't have kids, but I think looking back at when I was growing up I wish my parents would have talked about sex a little more then they did, but what is an appropriate amount of sexual education and at what age....
Re: Parenting Question...
I honestly don't know when the RIGHT time would be but I would think around the time they get their period would be a good time for girls. Not so sure about boys...I'll let my husband do that! hahaha
I don't even remember having the "sex" talk with my Mom.
I am the same, I learned whatever they taught us in school...
I think your right, as far as girls go, around when they start getting their AF and for boys it is tricky, I would guess the same age as to when they start hitting puberty...
I'm not a parent either, but my niece started asking questions last year when she was 10. I specifically remember watching 17 Again with her and she asked why the daughter got dumped. She was like did she get dumped because they...you know. I had to have that little talk with her about keeping is special and that the daughter did the right thing.
This year we're breaking into boobs, periods and more sex talk. Its interesting to see how her mom and I field questions. Right now we're keeping it at kissing. I told her my first kiss experience and it grossed her out. So I think we're safe with the whole in-depth conversations for now. But when the time comes I'm sure we'll have to be very honest and up front with her. Its what her mother wants and I agree....I say we because I've been in my nieces life since she was a baby and I'm extremely close to her. This is giving me a view of how it will be with my kiddos.
i remember the sex talk 10000% with my mom haha it was pretty funny and my dad was the one that told my mom in front of me that i needed to start wearing bras LMAO!!
my baby sis is 15 and shes prob known about sex since i started 'dating' lol. i know that she hasnt done it yet but her friends have!! theyre 15 years old!!! i did tell her that if she does decide that its the right time and the right guy to do it with....she could come to me and i will take her to planned parenthood to get on bcp. i told her i wouldnt question her, lecture her, or judge her at all. imo if she decides to do it she should responisbly. (maybe flameable but whatever.) my other sister (the middle child) got k/u at 18, dropped out of college, moved out before she was married (you dont move out unless youre married in our fam), so we dont want to repeat that scenerio...
i should prob add that my dad knows about the 'if she needs bcp' idea. he just doesnt want to know know when it happens
I don't think that is something to be flamed IMO if they are going to do it they are going to with out without help, I think knowing that the option is there to your sister is enough. Does that make sense, if my daughter comes to me someday and says mom I am thinking of having sex with my bf can I get on BCP I will talk it all over with her again and make sure she knows that if we do get her on BCP she also should use condoms to protect her self from STD's... and that she needs to be careful and she needs to make sure she is truly ready for the emotional and physical consequences that may occur.
I think as long as you have a good relationship with your kids, and talk to them about various things in life... they will let you know when the time is right. When they start to question and ask about things, I'm of the opinion that all that needs to be done is to answer them honestly and make sure they know you're there for them no matter what comes up and what concerns they have or what they are curious about.
My mom was very open with me from a pretty young age, and my whole life really. Any time I had anything I was curious about or had questions, she was there to talk to and never got angry or anything about it.
I think she did a good job because I was aware and informed, and that helped me make the decisions to wait about 4 or 5 years longer than most of my friends did, and never have any regrets in the decisions that I did make eventually.
I have no idea, but I'm petrified for Bella to ever get there. lol
Although, if my daughter ever came to me wanting to be on birth control (for whatever reason), that would definitely be a good time to have a discussion!
And fwiw, I went on birth control at 13 to regulate my out-of-control cycles, and I was not sexually active.
As the parent of the oldest kid, I'll become the resident expert (hahaha--I can see your sarcastic eye roll through my magic screen)
Anywho--I think the questions get different answers depending on the age. We started talking about babies getting made at 7 maybe earlier, then we had some interesting discussions about what 'gay' is and how sex actually 'works' around 10 or 11--oh yes those were interesting times--def the q's come when you least expect it...I think now it is harder at 14 because it is much more real and omg he could be having it sometime soon...(his friends and their darn phones that show porn at school!). I believe in answering honestly as is appropriate for their age.
And if you want specifics, I'll tell you in person at the gtg--yeehaw for seeing lovely faces!