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Need advice on how to split Christmas!
Background: We live 5 hours from our parents. Our parents live 30 minutes away from each other in the same metro area.
We can't figure out how to split Christmas. It would normally be pretty easy (for most people) - just do Eve/Day with different sides, right? - except H's birthday is Christmas Eve. My mom's extended family does a Christmas celebration the weekend before Christmas, but I don't want that to be the only time I spend time with my immediate family.
We came up with a decent compromise for thanksgiving, but I don't even know where to start with finding a solution for Christmas.
Re: Need advice on how to split Christmas!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Thanks to both of you... I think doing C Eve with his parents, splitting the day of and day after with mine is most feasible, I had thought of it before but H gets all misty-eyed at not having Christmas dinner with his parents. Frustrating. Hopefully he'll finally GET IT.
Oh my, and yes, he will grow up.
Let him decide then.
Tell him there are 4 time periods - 2 with his family, 2 with your family. He gets to pick one full day and one time period on Christmas day.
1) all day Christmas eve - 2)Christmas noon - 3)Christmas evening - 4)all day after Christmas.
He picks this year, you pick next year.
UNTIL you have kids. Then it's christmas at home, for the kids. Then go see family whenever, unless they want to come every other year.
I'd love to do it, but we're in a rental because H's job will take us somewhere else next May. It's way too tiny for that, plus we both have siblings, and my sis is in college and comes home for the holidays.
I do like the time slot idea. It's funny, I kept trying to talk to H about this last year and the year before, but he just kept thinking it would "work out" and not giving it too much thought. Now, it's almost here and his parents are going to be asking about our plans so they can plan accordingly... sigh. I wish we didn't live 5 hours away so I could just sleep in my own damn bed.
Thanks for the advice, everyone!
Remind him that you have a family too that you want to spend some time with. If he's getting all misty-eyed, how does he think YOU feel if you don't get to see your family at all?
I'll throw this out too- he's an adult. Does he really have to celebrate his b-day ON his b-day EVERY year? Why can't X-mas Eve be put out as an option to spend w/ YOUR family?
If he wants X-mas dinner w/ his, then X-mas Eve goes to your family.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Is this your first holiday as a married couple? Whatever you decide now sets the trend for every future Christmas, so keep that in mind. Not saying you can't change the plan in a few years, but if you can't figure it out now, it will be harder 5 years in when everyone is used to you being X place on X day. If both sets are only 30 miles apart, is it at all feasible to do both sets each day? Sounds like a lot of driving, but that's what DH and I do, since we have family coming from out of town to both places on both days, and my family always "did" Christmas Eve, and his always "did" Christmas Day.