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Do we wait to get pregnant?
We got married in August of 2009 and thought after one year we would try to conceive. I went back to school in January this year and won't be done until December of 2011. One thing to keep in mind that I am currently 30 years old and he is 34 so we don't want to wait to much longer. We had then decided that around May next year we would then start trying. But today I said to myself not even thinking about baby that I wish he and I could go back to just us without me doing homework every night. That thought got me questioning whether we need to wait awhile after I'm done with school to conceive. I want us to get have a baby because I know we both want one but I don't want to take away precious him and I marriage time.
We rarely get to have just us time between our jobs, my schoolwork, making time for friends/family/home improvement. Am I just having a bad time right now and we should go ahead with trying to conceive next year or wait until we have had a lot more us time? I am completely open to any and all opinions and advice. Sorry this was so long. 
Re: Do we wait to get pregnant?
my advice is to finish school before you get pregnant. You re 30 not 40...you have plenty of time to get pregnant. Also, if you have any doubts that you are ready you shouldnt ignore them.
Do you plan on using your degree after graduation>?
Wait. Having a child is too important a process and too stressful on a marriage to even consider doing it when one or the other partner (or both) aren't ready. If you do have one now, or soon, you'll end up resenting it for the timing and for the lack of your own free time, and that's not good for anyone.
You're 30 - plenty of people have kids well into their 40s now (I'm not saying it's easy, just that it's possible).
Finish your schooling, be a couple for a while (at least a year, I'd say) and then start thinking about it again.
i would wait - it's only a year. and you can try to get pg as your grad date approaches (i am two mos along now, and i finish school in december). and i agree with mags - you are 30, not 40 and one year really won't make a difference.
thanks, we talked about it tonight and are going to see how we feel come May next year. We will be okay either way. I know we are both very ready to have kids. And if come 7-8 months from now we are thinking to definitely wait, then we will. but if that bug is itching, we may just go for it.
I am working in the field now that my degree/certificate is for so that helps. Luckily I only have a few classes left and am going to school part time and those last classes will be online so will definitely get to spend more time with my hubby.
will keep you all posted on what we end up doing. no unexpected unplanned pregnancies here, making sure of that one!
will probably be looking for more advice on other marriage things. thanks again for the advice, is very much appreciated! the best thing about getting pregnant in my family is that there actually no pressure to hurry. love it!
Reevaluating closer to your original TTC date is probably the best option!
Good luck with your schooling.
Thank you to all who gave good advice. and for the one who doesn't believe i am mature enough to have children, shame on your for making assumptions about someone you have never met and will never meet. My husband and I are very mature individuals and have a very intelligent view on life. Asking other people for just advice on what they have done is a very good way to just reassure myself.
I am very excited to bring a baby into this world and become a mommy. We have evaluated our lives and financial situation to determine the best time to conceive. That clock that ticks.....yeah it's starting to go into overload in our house! I think the fact that we have made the decision to wait until I am almost done with school to get pregnant is very smart and it would be less than mature to not ask for advice.
Again thank you to all who have given me good advice, it will be taken into consideration come time to actually make the leap into parenthood.
There is no way you are 30. Maybe 20, but not 30.
Okay so you have officially crossed a line and I will not ask anyone for advice ever again. Seriously, if you don't have anything nice to say about a situation then just don't say anything at all.
You don't know me, you don't know my husband, you don't know our lives. When I was 20 I was getting my college education and preparing to graduate from a prestigious private university. For everyone out there who were 20 and had a baby, I applaud you for having that maturity and courage.
Apparently these message boards are around just to piss people off and make others feel like they can talk to anyone however they want.
Goodbye fellow Nesties, I'm done.
Well - on a positive note, I think you made a wise decision to wait until school is over, or almost over. I know many people do it, but I know I couldn't take the stress of school along with an infant.
Good luck to you and your husband!