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Like seriously...
Yesterday we were having Thanksgiving with my ILs and just before lunch I had some really bad pain on my right upper rib area. Pain whenever I breathed in deep and it was pretty bad. But I took Advil and I dealt with it and still tried to be happy and such. Apparently, while I was out of the room at one point one of my SILs said it sounded like it could be the symptom of a miscarriage. DH just told me this today. This pain was literally right under my armpit and although I dealt with it almost all of yesterday was probably due to carrying a boy in the nursery at church for over an hour and it was gone this morning. And yet I shake my head and roll my eyes (simultaneously). Maybe I'm just ignorant in miscarriage symptoms but how in the world would one assume that a pain in that area would be a symptom of miscarriage? Someone asked if I had my appendix taken out at one point and I was pretty clear that the pain was in no relation to the area of the appendix. This same SIL declared last weekend when she was visiting us with our niece that she knew I wasn't pregnant because I was loosing so much hair. Ooookay.
For the record I'm not pregnant so the assumption about the hair I suppose was correct. We are now officially TTC but I'm sure she'll figure that out when I stop losing hair.
Re: Like seriously...
Wow that is really rude!
Even if you suspect that it could be a miscarriage (I don't know how you could think that being where the pain was), I would never, ever say that to someone. I know she didn't say it directly to you, but what if it was a miscarriage? Shouldn't it be up to the woman who had one to tell people?
On a related note, I am hating that ever since we got married everyone is always asking/looking for signs that I am pregnant. I am just waiting for someone to say that my belly looks bigger - how rude would that be?