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vent
So sick of the IL's just 'popping' by to say hi. What about the 'call before you come over' thing do you not understand? You give the same courtesy to your other son and daughter in law - how about giving us that courtesy as well!
I was sleeping yesterday since I work nights and DH ran to Meijers to do a little shopping and when he came back his parents were backing out of our driveway. Apparently they just wanted to come by and see the house. Usually I guess I'd be okay with them come over - but I wish they'd call us first to see if we were available. My house was an absolute wreck and needed a cleaning. I can't stand it when my MIL sees it like that because now - the next time I'm at the IL's I'm going to have to listen to her go on and on about how I should be doing this and that for her son - even though he's the one unemployed right now and has enough time to do those things for himself. I only seem to get time (& energy for that matter) on the weekends. It's not 1950 and even if it was - I'm not going to bend over backwards killing myself to make sure he's cared for in the manner that she thinks is necessary. She just doesn't understand that he is an adult, and he could do certain things around the house too. Now I know I'm not the pristine housewife like she is and our house is not spic and span like she would like - but that is why it is our house and not hers. I don't even like having them in the house anymore because of what I hear from her every time they stop. Then when her & I happen to be by ourselves I get a lecture. She doesn't live my life so she doesn't know what I go thru. Gggrrrr!
Oh and one of those things that she thinks I should be able to manage is working 10-12 hour nights coming home and go to sleep right away, get up, then I'm should make a proper dinner for her son and eat it with him. How much sleep does she think I should get? I guess 2-3 hours should be plenty in her opinion.
Re: vent
Stopping over without a call is never OK in my book. I hate when people do that.
My mom's the one who gives me crap about our cluttered house though, hahaha.
Then again, I've known them for 10 years, so they've seen me good and bad. I don't hide the fact the house needs cleaned, since I've seen theirs dirty too.
I think I could handle it better if it was MY mom - but it being his - it's just a little harder to handle for me.