Meeting the folks..

aerieDC

Here's a background: I have been in a relationship with my SO for a pretty short amount of time. Within a month of dating he introduced me to his family. He is the only son with two older sisters. I was so nervous then but they're so welcoming it made it much easier.

Now nearly six months later I brought him home to meet my parents because I was sort of pressured by his mom. I haven't brought a guy home in YEARS--mostly because of my dysfunctional family.

Well the day they met has come and gone and it actually went great--much better than I had imagined.

How was your first time meeting your SO's family/bringing them home?

Karen2905

My DH is bald.  We don't have any bald people in my family, so my sister was preparing my nieces (then 4 and 5) for the fact that he wouldn't have hair.  She used the phrase "bald is beautiful." 

So here's how the first conversation went. 

DH: Hello Lauren (niece)!  I'm Gary.

Lauren: You're beeeaauuutifulllllll. 

Akhollywood85

I have been in a relationship with my SO for a little over a year.  We both live very far away from both his and my family.  

We met his mom, stepdad and grandma about 9 months in the relationship. He has a dysfunctional family, that he talks to not very often...so there wasn't a lot of pressure.  I think it went pretty well.  His mom made a big stink on SO's birthday, but other than that...it went fine.  I'd be okay going back.

About 10 months in, I met his sister.  There was a little more pressure because he actually likes his sister.  But we all got along fantastically as well.

We go to visit my family next month, and I'm getting pretty nervous.  I've never taken anyone home before...so this is a completely new thing for me.  Hopefully it goes well. 

aerieDC

Karen2905:

My DH is bald.  We don't have any bald people in my family, so my sister was preparing my nieces (then 4 and 5) for the fact that he wouldn't have hair.  She used the phrase "bald is beautiful." 

So here's how the first conversation went. 

DH: Hello Lauren (niece)!  I'm Gary.

Lauren: You're beeeaauuutifulllllll. 

That just made me giggle! Did your DH know that was coming?

Karen2905

aerieDC:

Karen2905:

My DH is bald.  We don't have any bald people in my family, so my sister was preparing my nieces (then 4 and 5) for the fact that he wouldn't have hair.  She used the phrase "bald is beautiful." 

So here's how the first conversation went. 

DH: Hello Lauren (niece)!  I'm Gary.

Lauren: You're beeeaauuutifulllllll. 

That just made me giggle! Did your DH know that was coming?

Nope!  It was quickly explained. 

ReturnOfKuus

Mr. Kuus took me to meet his immediate family on the second date, and his extended family on the fourth date.  Aside from my wtf face and general side-eye at all of this, it went fine.

ream02

I still haven't met my MIL. She lives in another country and we have a language barier. I'd love to though..

 We've been together for almost 4 years and married for just over a month.

The closest I've come to meeting her is saying "hi" on the phone and once on webcam.

Talk about awkward.. lol

FoxyinMT

My DH met my parents about a month after we started dating. They were tailgating at a football game at the university we both attended and he was so eager to please them he was offering to help with everything. When it came time to pack up he offered my step-dad help loading the bbq in to the truck and ended up getting a monster gash on his head and was bleeding everywhere. He was ok physically but he was so embarassed! 

jobiann

We were both nervous, my mother is highly opinionated and has very high expectations.  It did take her a little while to warm up to him, but now he is son number 2 to her!

His family is awesome, the first time I met them all they all rushed me with big hugs and smiles.  They rock, I definitely have the most amazing in laws EVER...I'm so blessed!

Mrs.Rad888

The first time DH met my parents, we were on the road, and were just stopping to have lunch with them on the way. My family is awesome, but it was nice to have the public setting to take some of the attention away.

When I met my IL's, it was actually DH and my first Xmas together. And it just so happens that that winter had the biggest snowfall in like 20 years! So, we were basically snowed in, and at one point the 2 SS's and DIL were also there. Luckily the IL's are also awesome, and totally know acceptable boundaries. Especially when I needed time to myself because that was my first Xmas without my family.

ecleptic

We knew eachother before we started dating our senior year of high school- back when neither of us had cars. So we met each other's local parents (His mom/dad divorced and his dad lives in another city) well before we started dating.

The first time DH met my mom needs this preface: My mom and I (and my grandmother, and her mother and up the family tree) look very similar.  Also, before my husband and I were friends- we loathed each other. So my mom is helping with the fall carnival and is wearing the same shirt I am with her hair back in a ponytail. I wander off to help with a different booth and leave her in my place. DH comes up to her turned back and starts taunting her and calling her names thinking that she's me. She turns around, he realizes the mistake and turns beet red and makes a break for it.

Mom was laughing for weeks. Told me I'd wind up killing him or marrying him. She didn't let him forget it for years- long after we'd mended fences and started dating. Told the story at our wedding too.

I met his mom during some carpool for choir or theater (we were both gleeks before glee made it cool). It was pretty anticlimatic when it went from "Hey Mrs H----, thanks for the ride!" to "Can you drive us to homecoming?" Same deal with my dad.

His dad, on the other hand, I didn't meet until we'd been dating for several years. He lived in another city and didn't visit much as the divorce was a messy one. I met him when we were in college and preforming in an opera together. Awkward all around- FIL showed up unannounced at the theater- asked for DH, I intercepted the message and thought it was his mom (who I was close to) and showed up to tell her he'd be out once he got the last of the stage makeup off- and met this total stranger and had to fumble out that's I was "the girlfriend" and make awkward small talk until DH got out. Luckily we've recovered well from the initial awkwardness- he's a nice guy and genuinely wants DH to have a happy stable relationship and I give that to him... so he loves me just for making his boy happy. They're not terribly close though so we don't see him a lot.

wittyschaffy

DH met my parents first - we went to dinner and it went fine. My dad is the ONLY guy in the house and is accustomed to beating a hasty retreat to his man cave in the basement when the conversations in our household got too "girlie".  He's also a bit of a low talker because I think he's got some hearing loss.  Anyways, I warned DH that my dad isn't a man of many words and that sometimes people perceive that as disapproval but it is just how he is.  Dad proceeded to yack DH's ear off the entire meal.  I kept looking at Dad funny thinking "who is this man and what have you done with my father?!"

I went to dinner with my ILs and it went fine.  Their family is just not into liquor at. all.  Not that I'm a boozer by any means but can't think of too many meals that can't be improved by a glass of wine or beer.  I was last to order and asked for a pint of beer to have with my pizza.  As soon as I ordered, DH and FIL changed theirs to have drinks too!  I thought it was pretty cute. 

We went to dinner and mini golfing with my sisters.  That didn't go so fine.  lol.  I made the mistake of getting up to use the restroom and leaving DH alone with my sisters.  Apparently, my very outspoken no holds barred sister told DH (with a big grin on her face) that if he ever hurt me, he'd cut his balls off.     Later, when we were playing mini golf, my outspoken sister kept smacking everyone in the butt with her putter. 

I didn't find out about the restaurant conversation until much much later.  Good thing DH is a trooper!

provamy

Karen2905:

My DH is bald.  We don't have any bald people in my family, so my sister was preparing my nieces (then 4 and 5) for the fact that he wouldn't have hair.  She used the phrase "bald is beautiful." 

So here's how the first conversation went. 

DH: Hello Lauren (niece)!  I'm Gary.

Lauren: You're beeeaauuutifulllllll. 

 This literally made me LOL!  Too funny...